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Date: 2012-11-28 02:38 am (UTC)
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You're not the only person who felt that way about the article. I have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and was horrified to find myself labelled as someone "particularly likely to cause severe harm" while "good people" with "big problems" like depression got off lightly. Also the way the article described people who have BPD was very inaccurate. Yes some people are like described but they're the minority. The rest of us have to put up with a load of crap from medical staff and the general public because of these rather vocal few and articles like this that don't do any research.

I'm part of the Personality Disorder Project in Edinburgh which is trying to change the way Personality Disorder (PD) is viewed in general. We've even teamed up with one of the mental health nursing courses at Napier University to better educate their third year students.

My condition makes me question every thought and feeling I have and I had to ask my boyfriend if he thought I was over-reacting after someone of my friends commented on my Facebook post. He's usually the first person to tell me if I am over-reacting or have gotten the wrong end of the stick or misunderstood something and as a result I trust what he says. He agrees with me on this. He thinks the way the article is worded is harmful and especially stigmatising to those with PD. And that was just the introduction!

The author of the article could have left out all the stuff on mental illness and I would not have had such a big problem with it until I read your comments. I don't have much experience with autism or aspergers so I never thought about the article from that perspective. Thinking back on it, yes it does also read as "how to isolate aspies".

In another comment you said
I think the difference is that you are reading the article as saying "you should stop helping people when you reach the point it hurts you" and I am reading it as "you shouldn't help people at all because it might hurt you". There are qualifiers in the article of "of course you can do this if you want to" but it's also made quite clear that if you do you are stupid and to be treated with disdain.

I completely agree with you on this. That bothered me too but I was so incensed by the PD stuff that I forgot about it. I'd like to thank you for pointing it out as I knew there were other things that were bugging me but I haven't had the emotional spoons to go back to find them.

It's comforting to know that I'm not the only person who finds the phrase "I think you might be reading too much into this" and its ilk triggering. The whole "I'm normal, you're abnormal (mentally ill/autistic/aspergers etc) and we're disagreeing so you must be wrong" happens fairly often in my experience. Yes I see some things differently but when it comes to things that are blatantly hurtful I think I know what I'm on about.

I hope this comment makes sense. I often struggle to put things into words and my writing comes across as terse and cold and detached when I don't want it to.

Long comment short - I'm agreeing with you.

Date: 2012-11-28 09:39 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] miss_s_b
Thank you for understanding what I was getting at. Also *hug*

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