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What's the soonest you can tell a new partner you love them?
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First date
2 (6.9%)
First few days
1 (3.4%)
First week
1 (3.4%)
First two weeks
2 (6.9%)
First month
4 (13.8%)
First two months
3 (10.3%)
First six months
5 (17.2%)
First year
2 (6.9%)
Longer than a year
0 (0.0%)
THEY MUST NEVER KNOW
1 (3.4%)
I don't do "Love"
1 (3.4%)
SEWIWEIC
7 (24.1%)
What's the longest you'd wait for a partner to declare love before giving up on them?
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First date
0 (0.0%)
First few days
0 (0.0%)
First week
0 (0.0%)
First two weeks
0 (0.0%)
First month
0 (0.0%)
First two months
4 (13.3%)
First six months
5 (16.7%)
First year
6 (20.0%)
Longer than a year
2 (6.7%)
I WILL WAIT FOREVER
3 (10.0%)
I don't do "Love"
1 (3.3%)
SEWIWEIC
9 (30.0%)
Triggered by a couple of things recently where people were shocked that people would tell them that they were in love within the first few months.
And my general view is that if you aren't incredibly excited to spend loads of time with me and wander around holding hands while grinning a lot within the first few weeks of dating then we are probably not compatible.
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Dec. 22nd, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. Trail hunting to be banned under new animal welfare push
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Nov. 12th, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. Why the 'Toy Story' on Disney+ doesn't look like it did at the cinema
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Nov. 6th, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. NY school smartphone ban has made lunch loud again
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- 2. People are *terrible* at telling when they're being flirted with
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- 3. Pros And Cons Of A 3rd Trump Term
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- 4. MSPs defend working with groups opposed to abortion and marriage equality
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- 5. The Anti Defamation League has gone from fighting antisemitism to fuelling Islamophobia
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Nov. 5th, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. EU moves to prevent 'Trojan horses' from joining bloc
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Sep. 25th, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. ChatGPT Is Blowing Up Marriages by Taking People's Side (I'm a little sceptical about how good these relationships were)
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- 6. Students who listened to material scored worse than those who read it
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- 7. The new ChatGPT is less personal sounding than the old one. The women with AI boyfriends are not happy.
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Interesting Links for 14-07-2025
Jul. 14th, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. Stardew Valley is now Steam's top-rated game, surpassing Portal
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- 2. Most people in France, Germany, Italy and Spain want UK to rejoin EU, poll finds - but on new terms. Britons want to rejoin, but on their old terms.
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- 5. How GLP-1s Are Breaking Life Insurance
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- 6. I've found it! The most dystopian AI thing! Gig workers pretending to be the AIs that people have fallen in love with!
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Apr. 24th, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. Ask Google for a definition of a phrase and it'll make shit up for you.
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- 2. EU fines Apple €500M and Meta €200M for breaking Europe's digital rules
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Mar. 28th, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. Art projected onto The National Gallery of Scotland
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Feb. 21st, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. Placebo's Brian Molko Charged with Defamation of Italian Prime Minister (For pointing out that she's a fascist)
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Feb. 6th, 2025 12:00 pm- 1. In-patient services at Edinburgh's Astley Ainslie hospital to be transferred to East Lothian
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- 2. The Curta Mechanical Calculator (I'd love to have one if they didn't cost so much)
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- 3. AI systems with 'unacceptable risk' are now banned in the EU
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