People like me aren't like me

[andrewducker]

I was delighted to discover that similar interest matching was working again (if you're a paid member).

Fantastic, I thought. I quick click there will find me loads of people like me.

Dammit, my interests aren't specific enough. The people like me aren't like me! Or maybe my interests don't actually represent me.

I'm gonna play around with my interests and see who I can find.

Comments

devout

[protempore.livejournal.com]

Or maybe people like you (and you) are too devoutly interested in the things you are interested in; hence not being interested in enough/numerous diverse things.

Or you (being them & you) have not taken the time to really fill your interest box.

I know I haven't.

More

[andrewducker]

I filled mine in some more. But I think the problem is that my interests don't define me.

I realised while I was filling them in that they are basically the same intereste I had 5/10 years ago. I've gone into them in a lot more depth over that time, but the basics have stayed the same.

Hmmmm, maybe I need better definitions of my interests.

Re: More

[protempore.livejournal.com]

the whole "machine operated" thing would probably be the problem.

Re: More

[broin.livejournal.com]

Your interests aren't supposed to define you. How could they? I might have the same splash of gaming/movie/geek interests as a hundred people on LJ, but I don't feel like a clone. My approach to those interests defines me.

Why would you want to define your interests better? Is this step one in a similar-interests-page master plan?

Blech

[andrewducker]

You are, of course, completely correct.

I keep hoping I'll stumble across an easier way of meeting cool people. I was vaguely hoping that 'people who like what I like' would be a way of doing that.

Of course I'd already learned that this isn't true about 7 or 8 years ago, but hey, nothing wrong with failing to learn from your experiences, is there?

Damn.

Re: Blech

[broin.livejournal.com]

See the way I have a dozen hot chicks who post regularly on my LJ? =) Learn from the master.

Visit LJs that interest you. Lurk for weeks. Like people. Join communities too.

Interesting people will not flock to you. =)

Ditto

[andrewducker]

I too have hot chicks posting on my livejournal. And I've checked out a few communities, but not found any that really grabbed me yet. Following links from peoples friends pages seem to doing a better job for me, as I've found several interesting people.

And they seem to be flocking to me a bit. At least 3 people have found me rather than vice versa. Not enough, of course, and none of them are throwing money and bowing down at my feet.

Re: Ditto

[broin.livejournal.com]

Your interests just ain't gonna do it. If you have 'industrial' and a bunch of 12 year olds like industrial, you might not have the meeting of minds you actually want.

Then start a community, jeez. :)

?

[andrewducker]

A Community of what? Alt.fan.andrewducker?

Naah, things are actually going fairly well. I just had inflated hopes for the 'similar interests' link, which didn't pan out. Not actually a problem, just something to whine about.

Re: ?

[broin.livejournal.com]

A community of what interests you. If the existing discssion groups aren't doing it for you, maybe they're not working for like-minded people.

Look at socksarefun In three weeks, it's up to over a hundred members, with a dozen posts a day about socks. Socks.

So start a discussion group, with a charterbased on your interests. Find people. Go on, get on with it. It's Tuesday, there's not much going on.

You're possibly right

[andrewducker]

Except about the 'nothing much going on' bit. You wouldn't believe how many problems I've had so far this morning.