Interesting Links for 21-11-2019
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andrewducker- We have to talk about toxic and manipulative sales tactics (seriously, this is really fucking awful)
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- Housebuilding data shows dearth of homes for affordable renting (Build! More! Houses!)
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- Autism in History
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- An interesting political fix to deal with automation putting workers out of jobs - retrain them, and give them a decent settlement to help them find something new.
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- Parents win right to prayer-free alternative to religious assemblies
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- So you want to learn Microservices?
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- Jo Swinson wants the nation to go to rehab, but it's saying no, no, no
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- Have you met... hurricane shark?
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- Is love a feeling or a choice?
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- General election 2019: Lib Dems consider hung Parliament options
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- The creator of the phrase "emotional labor" specifically describing offering advice or support to friends as a kind of emotional labor.
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- Book Review: All Therapy Books
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- Wythnos yng Nghymru Fydd - the first Welsh science fiction novel
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Date: 2019-11-22 08:35 am (UTC)I often describe a relationship as something nurtured: a virtuous circle of feelings and actions, which, if you reinforce them, and get over the larger obstacles along the way, become like a bigger version of themselves.
It felt like that emphasised what actually happened, without denying how intense feelings are a big part of it and usually the shoot which is first nurtured. Because after all, it's not *just* a choice: if you make the effort to cultivate a relationship, putting in the time together, repeatedly making big choices putting a priority on the relationship in your lives, you will usually build a strong loving relationship, but if you just don't have any romantic feelings most-but-not-all people will feel like they're missing those, whether they put a high or low priority on that as part of their life.
But I admit, I only came up with this when I tried to find a positive romantic framework for "relationships which didn't start out with a mutual immediately-falling-in-love-forever". And it feels like I know people better at life than me who don't seem to agree.