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[andrewducker]

The cynical part of me wants to put up a poll regarding the news piece just below, so that people can then tick boxes marked "I'm sorry to hear that.", "If you need to talk you know where to find me.", "*hug*" and suchlike.

Thankfully, the more reasonable part of me knows that these words, while common and expected, are merely the conveyors of actual emotion.

And really, I do appreciate it.

Comments

[allorin.livejournal.com]

The smart-arse part of me would like to see that poll.... ;+)

[wolflady26.livejournal.com]

It's hard to be helpful, with no information about the situation. So supportive is about as close as we can get.

I could have tried something like righteous indignation (That bitch! How could she!!) But since I don't know her at all, that would be totally inappropriate and offensive.

Or I could have tried humor....oh, wait, I am trying humor, nevermind. I'm often not very good at it, though.

So, you know, 'I've been there, and it sucks, and I'm sorry you're there right now' is about as good as it gets :)

[andrewducker]

Yeah, I know. That's the problem - when you'e that far away, there's nothing to be done but send nice thoughts.

I do appreciate it.

[thepaintedone.livejournal.com]

Hope you get through it without too much pain. You seem a fairly grounded and sensible kind of bloke (having not actualy met you), so I'm sure you'll get yourself through it sooner or later.

All the positive suportive thoughts I can muster are yours to help in the process.

[kpollock.livejournal.com]

Very funny, actually. You could set it up as a web service and so provide that functionality to any and all people who break up.

I'm allowed to say that since I'm offically a heartless bitch.

[andrewducker]

Which is exactly what I need right now.

[kpollock.livejournal.com]

Well, I am also the past mistress of the amicable breakup - maybe no coincidence.

[autodidactic.livejournal.com]

I have hopes.

Hopes that it wasn't ugly or protracted, though it probably was.

Hopes that you both will feel better soon.

Hopes that I can maintain friendships with the both of you.

Hopes that Denver is okay, and that she will not be neglected during this trying time.

Hopes that you both get the love that you need.

Hopes that I can give some of it.

Love, your friend always,
A.

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear the news that tisme has broken up with you.

And yes, it is sort of a phatic grunt. But by grunting phatically yet sympathetically, I acknowledge that I think of you as part of my group, and hope that the many acknowledgements you get from me and from other primates also grunting phatically at you, will give you a warm nonverbal primate sort of feeling.

If not, well, there's always chocolate.

[andrewducker]

Had chocolate on the way home.

Looked up 'phatic' - cool word, must make use of it.

Cheers muchly!

[octopoid-horror.livejournal.com]

-insert emotion conveying phrase that I'm (as expected) crap at putting into actual words-

[andrewducker]

You aren't crap at all.

*hug*

[spaj.livejournal.com]

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Call me.
mail me.
MSN me.

If you need to.

Adam

[andrewducker]

Cheers, appreciate it.

[kimberly-a.livejournal.com]

I didn't comment initially, just because it felt like anything I could write would come across as a platitude, especially given how little we know each other.

Instead of trying to offer something, then, I'll just ask a question, which you are welcome to ignore: How are you doing?

[andrewducker]

I'm doing just fine.

The stresses of trying to deal with the relationship have now vanished, and I'm now just dealing with living with a friend, which is much easier to deal with. Also, Erin was much more stressed out with things, and so, as she's coping better, things are generally less stressfull.

So I'm good.

Thanks :->

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[kimberly-a.livejournal.com]

That's really good to hear!

[cleodhna.livejournal.com]

Mrrgnrgl. Phlmmbast. Parghwagh'knrrlbraack. Krem.

I'm sorry.

[andrewducker]

I'm sure I recognise three of those Gods. And it's been aaaages since I placed WFRP.

[cleodhna.livejournal.com]

In that case, I'm really worried, because I made them all up.

GET OUT OF MY HEAD! ALL OF YOU!

[darkoshi]

ummm... um. phatic grunts from me too. to both of you.

[aberbotimue.livejournal.com]

Sorry bud..

Even more sorry that I didn't read this till now..

if you ever want to get away, there is a place to stay in this god forsaken flat land we call cambridge..

and I'll even not try and talk about anything but tcp ip and dns servers!

nice LED by the way...

best I can come up with..

Nxx