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Date: 2012-04-17 12:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] momentsmusicaux.livejournal.com
True, shame is not a helpful emotion.

So what is the state of mind that, rather than what I would feel if I did go get blind drunk and throw up in the street, causes me to avoid going that far in the first place?

Date: 2012-04-17 01:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] marrog.livejournal.com
See my comment below.

You need to feel like you don't need to be drunk to have a good time.

You need to feel like you could choose to get up and dance - or not dance, if you prefer - based not on how hammered you are but whether you enjoy it.

You need to feel like if you saw a fit bloke, it didn't make you a slut if you went home with him, just for fun, if you were sober.

You need to feel like it's not going to be a mark of pride for you to tell your mates how many pints you kept down before the last one that broke the camel's back.

You need to feel like you're not a poof if you only fancy two pints, enjoyed slowly over the course of the evening, instead of seven or eight crammed into a two or three hour period.

You probably also need to be immune to the idiocy of your mates' behaviour when they're all hammered and you're not - you need to be able to walk down the street with them at kicking-out time wincing at their rendition of O Flower of Scotland at the top of their lungs and not be thinking "What a shower of wankers... this is the last time I stay sober with this lot."

It would probably also help if you were sure you could afford next month's mortgage/car insurance/council tax, you hadn't just had your working tax credits cut and you knew you'd still be in a job come the summer. But we can't expect miracles.


(This isn't an attack of any kind on you btw, it's more an extended commentary on the current State of the Nation.)
Edited Date: 2012-04-17 01:10 pm (UTC)

Date: 2012-04-17 01:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] naath.livejournal.com
Supposing you aren't an alcoholic (which should be treated as a medical problem) then I think the main problem is that of the cultural expectation that in order to "have fun" you must be blind drunk. Also the fact that it is often cheaper to drink alcohol than soft drinks in bars and clubs is... probably not helpful.

Being very very drunk is not generally physically pleasant, being very very hungover is almost universally physically extremely unpleasant. That horrible "oh god, WHAT did I DO" feeling is also not one that I would personally seek out (btdt)... perhaps people are deliberately seeking out these sensations, but I doubt it. It seems to me that they are seeking out "fun" but don't know how to have it without drink. We need to allow ourselves to have fun without drink, perhaps we need to redefine what fun is.

Date: 2012-04-17 09:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] octopoid-horror.livejournal.com
The other weekend I was in a club where it cost exactly the same amount of money to buy a soft drink as it did to buy a double vodka and mixer. Since both came in the same size glass, the vodka was effectively free.

Date: 2012-04-17 03:29 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] nameandnature
She wants to make it illegal to be drunk in public.

It already is illegal to be drunk in public, or to be drunk and disorderly (Wikipedia, with cites of the statutes).

I think the comparison to the smoking ban need not imply that we should only worry about drinkers who are damaging the health of others or harming the NHS (though [livejournal.com profile] woodpijn uses those examples).

It is _none of her business_ what my state is, unless I am causing destruction of property or harassing people. Should I wish to get horribly drunk then that is _my_ choice.

The law disagrees, and I think rightly. According to the CPS, you need not be a damaging properly or harassing people to be disorderly, you can just be making a public place unpleasant ("rowdy behaviour in a street late at night which might alarm residents or passers-by"). The CPS link came from this thread, where it's discussed a bit.

What Ann Widdecombe proposes seems to be to enforce existing laws, plus a bit of the old Tory "put them in the stocks" business. I doubt the stocks will work, but I'm in favour of enforcing these laws, because doing so would make public spaces better.

There's also the Schroedinger's rapist argument, I suppose: saying I should not be concerned about drunks I encounter as long as they're not violent pre-supposes I know which ones might turn violent so that I can go about my business in public without fear (as long as my spider sense doesn't start tingling). In practice people don't have the spider sense, so you end up with no go areas at certain times.

Date: 2012-04-17 07:34 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] nameandnature
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