I occasionally find it weird how other people now enter and leave my life at the whim of my children.
I've been organising Sophia's 6th birthday party*, and she's asked for a mixture of school friends and old nursery friends to come. So far, the school friends are (nearly) all yes, and ⅔ of the parents of nursery kids haven't responded.
Which, y'know, kids move on, they adjust to new friends, and maybe parents don't want to have painful moments by having them meet up with old friends. It just feels very abrupt.
And it highlights the weirdness of being pushed together with other adults because your kids made friends with their kids, and 4 year olds can't go to places by themselves, so now you're hanging out with them, and getting to know their lives, and chatting about each others kids and how they're doing, until one day your kid isn't friends with their kid any more, and you just never see each other again.
And if you were really close to them then obviously you'd make the effort - if you have any spare time and social energy, which I mostly don't right now. But even with social acquaintances it still feels odd to have them in your life, and then one day they just aren't.
(Unless your kids and their kids make friends again when they all go to the same high school in 6 years time. Now *that* will be weird.)
Plus, of course, Gideon is now making stronger friends at nursery, and so I'm going to have another group of parents to make friends with. And now I know the pattern it's going to be weirder from the beginning.
I don't really have a conclusion. It's just all weird.
*I know, I know
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