At Catamorphism's suggestion

[andrewducker]

[Poll #436547]

Following on from the "When should people first have sex?" question, she suggested that we might want to know when people actually did.

And I'm looking for _consensual_ sex. When did you first _choose_ to have sex?

Comments

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

First, define sex.

[andrewducker]

Shan't. Far too loaded. I'm sure that at some point you felt like you were ready to 'have sex' and had the opportunity to carry it forward. It's that moment of choice that I'm really interested in.

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

Shan't. Far too loaded.

Can't answer the poll, then. It's a different answer depending on which definition of sex you are using.

[derumi.livejournal.com]

I decided to go with Bill Clinton's apparent definition.

[cangetmad.livejournal.com]

But he's asking you to use your definition. Don't you have one?

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

Don't you have one?

Yes.

[andrewducker]

Are you saying there _wasn't_ a point where you felt ready for sex and then engaged in it? I'm slightly at a loss, and would appreciate an explanation (althought obviously if you don't feel like explaining your formative sexual experiences I understand entirely).

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

Are you saying there _wasn't_ a point where you felt ready for sex and then engaged in it?

No, that's not what I'm saying.

[andrewducker]

In that case you know the moment I'm asking about. So what's the problem?

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

In that case you know the moment I'm asking about. So what's the problem?

What makes you think there was just one moment?

[andrewducker]

I did say "first" in the question.

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

Ah, but now we're back to "how do you define sex"? (And of course, I have no intention (http://www.livejournal.com/users/yonmei/2005/02/13/) of ever answering this poll...)

[gomichan.livejournal.com]

Weird. I've got the youngest answer so far. No one else has answered 16 yet. And I keep getting told that the average in the US is 14 or somesuch. Y'all are way too patient and mature for me. :D

[kellibunny.livejournal.com]

How do you think i feel, being the oldest :P (And i would have DIED if it would have happened any sooner for me.)

[andrewducker]

Mine was at about the right age. And only shortly before you. I was (and am) pretty wierd tho. And she was my first girlfriend (although that didn't happen until a week or two later).

[asim.livejournal.com]

Re: My Answer

Younger, in point of fact.

Re: age of first sex

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

I gave my answer for what might be a somewhat standard definition of sex: penetrative intercourse. If I change the definition to consensual genital touching with someone within about 10% of my age, it would be somewhere around 6 to 8.

[davidcook.livejournal.com]

Not answering the poll; let's just say it took me far too long to gain the Clue and the Opportunity (mostly the Clue).

[protempore.livejournal.com]

I'd really never been particularly interested. Peer pressure by my (then unknown to be) future wife.

[autodidactic.livejournal.com]

I wish you went one year earlier. I had a great sexual experience with a girl who slept over. I would even count it as sex, since some of it did involve pretty advanced penetrative stuff.

I was kinda precocious.

A.

[andrewducker]

Yeah, probably should have gone 10-30 rather than 12-32. I hope you put in '12' as the nearest feasible option.

[robhu.livejournal.com]

There is no N/A option!

[andrewducker]

You can't have them for scales. Shame, but such is life. Not that I have anything against people not having sex until they feel ready for it - good on you.

I would warn you against taking sex _too_ seriously. Otherwise you'll end up neurotic about it and sadly dissapointed when it turns out to be rather nice, but not worldshattering.

[robhu.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the advice.

[drainboy.livejournal.com]

Yeah, yeah, whatever, I kick your asses. Me and codde_delphi ROCK!

[darkoshi]

so why don't you have a >32 option, or a "haven't had sex yet" option? unless i have sex within the next week, none of your options would apply for me. altho i did just yesterday do something which comes close to sex, it's still not something that I actually define as sex.