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andrewduckerI have a confession to make.
I find women attractive. I like their bodies and I like looking at those bodies. I even occasionally like looking at pictures of those bodies. I just can't help it, I find naked women sexy. Some people believe this is morally wrong. Personally I don't see what's wrong with sex, pictures of sex, words about sex or thoughts about sex. I really, really can't see anything evil about any of those things. If someone can explain to me, I'd be very grateful.
I used to enjoy porn quite a lot, a few years ago, but got kinda bored of it at some point about four years ago. I'm not sure what it was, but something was just missing. I had no idea what it was, but I didn't really miss porn, so it didn't bother me. Every few months I'd be bored of an evening and spend some time surfing for nakedness and stories thereof, but I usually got bored fairly quickly
Anyway, I bumped into an article by Eric "I like Linux and Guns" Raymond a few weeks back that interested me. I finished reading it recently and some of the points it makes are interesting. Basically, he points out, most of the women in the pictures are nothing like real women. They look more like grotesque caricatures of lust than real women. They are surrounded by numerous fetishised items that we are socialised to associate with sex, but they look nothing like actual women I'd want to have sex with.
He concludes:
A more plausible construction for most potential porn consumers today is that they have issues about female power. Men who get lots of attention from attractive three-dimensional women are not likely to be buying porn-site subscriptions. Therefore, we can safely assume that the consumers who define demand patterns for porn producers generally feel that their sex life is hemmed in by female choices and the female power to refuse. Defining the objects of their desire as "cum-sucking sluts", to be used but not related to any emotional way, is a kind of equalizing move in the sexual-power game.
This strikes a chord with me, as I realised that I lost interest in porn around the same time I started empathising more with people in general (as opposed to just the people I knew) and thinking more about their feelings and the effects of my behaviour on the general population I lived among. I'm still not sure exactly what the change was, or entailed, except that it involved an increase in my empathy and understanding levels for human beings, and that I think it happened due to the time I spent looking after Gina.
I find women attractive. I like their bodies and I like looking at those bodies. I even occasionally like looking at pictures of those bodies. I just can't help it, I find naked women sexy. Some people believe this is morally wrong. Personally I don't see what's wrong with sex, pictures of sex, words about sex or thoughts about sex. I really, really can't see anything evil about any of those things. If someone can explain to me, I'd be very grateful.
I used to enjoy porn quite a lot, a few years ago, but got kinda bored of it at some point about four years ago. I'm not sure what it was, but something was just missing. I had no idea what it was, but I didn't really miss porn, so it didn't bother me. Every few months I'd be bored of an evening and spend some time surfing for nakedness and stories thereof, but I usually got bored fairly quickly
Anyway, I bumped into an article by Eric "I like Linux and Guns" Raymond a few weeks back that interested me. I finished reading it recently and some of the points it makes are interesting. Basically, he points out, most of the women in the pictures are nothing like real women. They look more like grotesque caricatures of lust than real women. They are surrounded by numerous fetishised items that we are socialised to associate with sex, but they look nothing like actual women I'd want to have sex with.
He concludes:
A more plausible construction for most potential porn consumers today is that they have issues about female power. Men who get lots of attention from attractive three-dimensional women are not likely to be buying porn-site subscriptions. Therefore, we can safely assume that the consumers who define demand patterns for porn producers generally feel that their sex life is hemmed in by female choices and the female power to refuse. Defining the objects of their desire as "cum-sucking sluts", to be used but not related to any emotional way, is a kind of equalizing move in the sexual-power game.
This strikes a chord with me, as I realised that I lost interest in porn around the same time I started empathising more with people in general (as opposed to just the people I knew) and thinking more about their feelings and the effects of my behaviour on the general population I lived among. I'm still not sure exactly what the change was, or entailed, except that it involved an increase in my empathy and understanding levels for human beings, and that I think it happened due to the time I spent looking after Gina.
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Date: 2002-06-19 10:54 am (UTC)My feelings towards pornography are different to my feels as regards -real- situations. Porn isn't about reality. Well not for me.
And what do you mean by "real women"?
If you mean "women I know don't look like Jenna Jameson".. well, fair enough.. but there are some out there who do. (more than just the obvious -one- I'm sure)
But there's plenty of pornography where the women don't look like yer typical porn star. But then, maybe the guy who wrote the article has had a sheltered life or something.