Relationships

[andrewducker]

This theory is not true.

Well, mostly not true.

Well, partly not true.

Actually, it seems to be true an awful lot of the time.

Comments

[theferrett.livejournal.com]

As I said in my comments, it's true as far as it goes. There's more to look for, but this attracts the sort of people who want to use other people - and for those people, it will always be 100% correct.

[green-amber.livejournal.com]

Speaking as someone who thought most of it was pretty accurate, "Wanting to use" is a bit judgmental I think. I think the writer's making a fairly accurate point that people - men and women - are driven by compulsions they don't have full control over - the need for sex, affection, security (emotional and financial), cuddles - which soemtimes lead to unfortunate decisions about relationships. (And indeed sometimers to fortuante ones.)

I saw a really good ep of the Ozzy drama Secret Life of Us a while back in which a "mature" woman - late 40s maybe - walked into a dating agency and insisted on being matched with a rich man, so she could reire from work as soon as possible. The staff were, of course, flabbergasted. The point of the ep was to make you think about whether it was intrinsically wrong to select for money as opposed to more traditionally "romantic" virtues, like handsomeness, lust, sense of humour etc. I ended up thinking that as long as the choice was conscious it wasn't morally wrong. But it's not what your gut says, right? ( I stress that as stated above I am hardly the kind of person who goes out with guys cos they're rich :)