Interesting Links for 30-01-2025

[andrewducker]

1. The one critic Elon Musk can't counter: his daughter

(tags:ElonMusk family transgender lgbt )

2. A really simple guide to self-care

(tags:advice health mentalhealth )

3. OpenAI Furious DeepSeek Might Have Stolen All the Data OpenAI Stole From Us

(tags:ai intellectual_property )

4. Edinburgh theatre run of Coraline scrapped over sexual misconduct allegations involving author Neil Gaiman

(tags:neilgaiman rape theatre )

5. Friends make tasks seem easier

(tags:psychology friendship )

6. Good Omens Graphic Novel Kickstarter will not be giving Neil Gaiman any money.

(tags:neilgaiman terrypratchett kickstarter )

7. Elon Musk can't even play computer games

(tags:games ElonMusk cheating )

8. 55% of Britons support rejoining the EU. Only 30% think we were right to leave.

(tags:uk europe polls )

9. Sicko game developers keep returning to reinvent Tetris

(tags:tetris games design )

10. Waymo to test its autonomous taxis in 10 new cities in 2025, starting with Las Vegas and San Diego

(tags:automation driving )

Comments

[juan_gandhi]

As to his daughter, I believe one has no right to publicly criticise one's parents, and vice versa.

[andrewducker]

One has the right to criticise anyone one wants to.

[juan_gandhi]

I can't imagine myself publicly criticising my parents, or my kids, or my grandkids, or my ex. Just shutting the fuck up would be more decent, if there are serious causes.

[andrewducker]

If you see someone acting badly, and you have the evidence others don't, then you almost have a duty to speak out and let others know.

[juan_gandhi]

Acting - yes. Having acted - too late. I'd keep silence, even in the court.

[andrewducker]

You can keep silence over bad behaviour if you want to. I don't think it's a good idea though.

[cmcmck]

I had the same treatment from my parents as Wilson and for the same reason so I feel I had every right to criticise what they did to me which was to throw me out when I was fifteen.

There are times when shutting thr fuck up just doesn't cut it or the abuse continues!

[juan_gandhi]

This may be a special reason, I guess. Still, why do it publicly?

[cmcmck]

For the reason I just stated- otherwise the abuse continues.

Sometimes you have to shame people.

Respect is not something you are given- it's something you earn as I learned in twenty years of teaching.

[juan_gandhi]

I respect my kids since they were born.
I respected all of my students when I was teaching.
I believe your attitude is not what I would ever agree with.

[ninetydegrees]

His father is a public figure who regularly spews hatred about other people, including his own daughter, and lies about his own life and his daughter's life. Why couldn't she reply back? Why couldn't she tell her truth? Why couldn't she speak up against his hatred towards "woke" and trans people as any citizen can?

Have you actually read the article? And why are you comparing two situations that are completely different?

[juan_gandhi]

Also, I was not talking about her specific case, where she has to fight to protect herself. It's a different case. And, after all, he started it, what could she do.

In this specific case I'd rather blame Musk.

But we were kind of generalizing, were not we?

[cmcmck]

My 'attitude' as you call it is having to deal with having been abused by my parents and if everyone to whom that happened kept quiet about it, what sort of world would we be living in?

[juan_gandhi]

Oh, I have probably used a term that triggers something I did not mean to trigger. I have opinions and attitudes, you have opinions and attitudes. I'm not making any attempt to push mine on you, and neither do you, right?

I know nothing about your past, you, I guess, know nothing about mine. We just exchange our views. It's really horrible that people had to get through life being abused by parents. It's horrible.

[movingfinger]

Because the abuser is widening the target circle for his abuse? Because other people should be aware of the abuse pattern and on guard against it?

You clearly have a weevil about this, so fine, don't criticize your parents in public. But don't be shocked that other people see it very differently.

[channelpenguin]

Agreed. I believe that family are not a special case. They do not get any free rides. I do not hold them to a lesser (or greater) standard than anyone else. My own family are also like this (can't speak for my 11 year old nephew).

I have observed that other people think differently. One point of friction between me and my (long) ex husband.

[andrewducker]

I'm totally willing to cut people a break who I know well and wish to remain on relatively good terms with. Like my family :-)

But if someone in my family had acted awfully and I wasn't on speaking terms with them any more, then they aren't getting any special privileges!

[juan_gandhi]

This surprises me, but well, now I see: opinions vary. Probably I have a very different background.

[cmcmck]

Exactly! You may be very lucky in having respectful parents. Not everyone is that fortunate.

An aunt came to my rescue and I gave her all the respect she deserved for that selfless act.

[juan_gandhi]

I see. Yes. I had a lot of freedom. Me, and a friend of mine, we were both counting on this attitude of our adults, and we felt our responsibility.

[poshmerchant]

Depends on the parents, but for public figures especially there is no expectation of privacy from filial duty

[juan_gandhi]

Now imagine you have a child who is a public figure. Will you undermine that figure, if you have reasons to, or?

[movingfinger]

Why are you even asking this?

If a member of one's family is doing great harm to the public, as a public figure, why would one be expected to silently endorse that person by protecting them and not criticizing them? The Kennedys are a fabulous example of a family where omertà was expected, buffing and polishing away crime and umcomfortable truths and inconvenient people. If someone (the Musk case) is cranking up pogroms and horrific bigotry and persecution because his nose is out of joint because someone he abused from her childhood onward isn't going along with him on that, he should be exposed and criticized volubly and publicly. Silence is enabling.

[mountainkiss]

I am not sure if you're being sarcastic and I'm missing it and will look ridiculous, but I do not think that something with quite so many boxes can be called a really simple guide to self-care.

[andrewducker]

Simple as in plain English and not complex. Every item is easy to understand.

(I agree that there are a lot of items, but that's because people need a lot of things.)

[mountainkiss]

I think the reason I think it’s far from simple is that almost everyone in the world without a large private income can’t have a lot of things. The process of deciding between them and then scaffolding the most important is what enables restoration. The implication that they are all available by an act of will is misleading.

[andrewducker]

Oh there are definitely things on there that cost money and not everyone can have all of them. I didn't take it to mean "You must do all of these things or you are not looking after yourself!"

[mountainkiss]

I was more thinking about time, capacity and self-regulation than money per se, though of course that must also be a factor in many.