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Date: 2010-12-10 11:31 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 11:35 am (UTC)I'm old enough that I am kinda-friends with my parents. They'll always be my parents, but the relationship isn't anything like what it was when I was, say, 18.
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Date: 2010-12-10 11:39 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 01:06 pm (UTC)To me, Facebook is a means of easily getting in touch with people I might otherwise have trouble getting hold of, and to a certain extent, getting to see photos of myself (generally at LARP events). I very rarely update my status, and when I do it's split between signal boosts and silliness.
I wouldn't need Facebook to get in touch with my parents or have a general idea how they are, given that I spoke to them every week, and there might be silliness or signal boosts that I'd be less likely to post if they could see it.
Also dwelling on it some more, there's another aspect to it – I can control what I put on my facebook. I can't control what other people do relating to me which might be visible to my parents – tagging me in a photo either as a joke or when it's something I'd rather them not see, or saying stuff on my wall/whatever.
Children? Again I don't have any, if I did... if they were very young I'd add them so I could keep an eye on them, if they were older I wouldn't add them (due to a combination of not needing it as a communications medium like above, and wanting them to have their own space), but would accept if they added me.
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Date: 2010-12-10 05:43 pm (UTC)The controls are very granular, but also the UI isn't as clear as it could be.
My sister is on FB, and I've not excluded her from anything. Within half an hour of Jennie getting home from hospital my mother had rung to check we were OK and ask if we needed anything.
While the specific timing of the call wasn't brilliant, it wasn't bad, and they just knew what was going on without me needing to ring them, which was useful as ringing people is always way down my list of things to do.
FB to me is a general contacts directory, if my parents had accounts, they'd be in that contacts directory.
And my father would be uploading a billion pictures of me and tagging them all, to Jennie's amusement.
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Date: 2010-12-10 07:15 pm (UTC)If the situation came up where someone added me on Facebook and I didn't want them to see everything, then I'd look at such. But as it currently stands, I don't have to do that, and I'm glad of it.
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Date: 2010-12-10 01:23 pm (UTC)(I wouldn't be Facebook friends with my dad either, for much the same reasons, but additionally because he died several years before Facebook existed.)
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Date: 2010-12-10 10:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-11 02:08 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 11:32 am (UTC)I find friending on hard Facebook because I don't like to insult people, and being connected with my real name I can't exactly hide from them. But then, seeing as I don't exactly use it, I don't see any harm having parents, etc, on it.
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Date: 2010-12-10 11:41 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 11:43 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 12:03 pm (UTC)I would have friended my Dad, but not my Mom if they were alive and had Facebook. Whenever I start to react to something on of my children posts, I stop and ask myself if I am reacting like my parent who I loved and could talk to, or like my parent who I feared and kept things from.
One of my measures of my success is that my niece has accepted me as a friend, but not her parents - I take that to mean that I must be fairly successful at maintaining the balance.
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Date: 2010-12-10 12:29 pm (UTC)That is an excellent reaction. I'll be striving to do the same thing when I'm a parent. Hopefully my frustration won't bubble over too easily.
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Date: 2010-12-10 11:42 am (UTC)"Gah, those kids/parents..."
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Date: 2010-12-10 11:48 am (UTC)I don't have children (yet), but I would definitely friend them. In fact, don't most parents these days seem to create accounts for their newborns anyway?
One point though, I rarely post anything that I wouldn't want anyone to see (it's one way of ensuring that nothing sensitive ends up on the Internet where I can't control it). Consequently there's little reason to worry about who I friend (other than for overload reasons).
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Date: 2010-12-10 12:04 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 03:32 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 10:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 11:54 am (UTC)I can imagine wanting to make permission to use Facebook contingent on me being involved closely when my kids are very young (oldest is 4 at the moment, so it may not come up for a while - but you never know). I'd then expect to move back to more hands-off when they start to really want their own space. And then finally reach a position where the idea of requiring parental permission or oversight to use a website seems risible to both parties. Space for kids to explore where they don't feel parents looking over their shoulder the whole time is really important, in general as well as online, and it's easy to underestimate how ready for that kids are. But on the other hand, it is my responsibility to keep them safe until they are able to make their own decisions. It can't be a hands-off thing, or a total-surveillance-until-18 thing: I need to be engaged, and judge how best to support them in becoming independent adults. The key thing for me would be talking about it and reviewing it regularly.
My parents aren't on Facebook, but they are fairly tech-savvy (very much so for their generation), and I know that they Google me irregularly. My Facebook updates are almost all auto-posted from my public Twitter account, so there's unlikely to be a big issue with them uncovering great dark secrets. I'd prefer not, just because of that looking over the shoulder thing, but if they wanted to (say because they felt out of touch with me and thought it would help) I wouldn't have a major problem.
(I do text my Mum regularly. She's the only person I regularly text who uses textspeak heavily (cu l8r), which I find faintly amusing because I otherwise associate it with people considerably younger than me. She got in to it early through exchanges with a text bunny daughter-in-law back in the days before T9/predictive text, and retains elements of that style.)
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Date: 2010-12-10 11:55 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 12:30 pm (UTC)But I do have filters set up to filter in and out all kinds of people - not just family, but the large number of people of my FB who are professional contacts only - the random updates you will see thereby mostly don't get seen by a random comedy photographer I have never met who lives in London, but they are still there for when I want to post professional content (Skinny articles etc)
I don't think I ever have filtered out my in-laws but I know I could. I have a 'sweary filter' for slightly more risque content that is blocked from both my in-laws and Ari's wee cousin who I'm friends with.
Lxxx
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Date: 2010-12-10 12:32 pm (UTC)Although it is my only means of contact should I need to get in touch, so it's kind of interesting to know that's where he is if someone dies or something.
Hmm.
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Date: 2010-12-10 12:36 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 12:36 pm (UTC)As it happens the first contact I'd had with my dad in over twenty years was me poking him on Facebook - it having finally occurred to me that a musician/artist/techy who was silly enough to change his name to Chris with an X instead of a Ch at the front was theoretically someone pretty easy to find on search engines.
I only just noticed that he appears to have deleted his facebook page, which gives you an idea of how much I noticed him while he had it. We were friends but hadn't really spoken in about a year and a half or so and our contact was pretty sporadic before that - he was really never sure what to say, particularly after Mum died, and I never really had a particular inclination to develop any sort of relationship from my end.
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Date: 2010-12-10 12:50 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 02:30 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 10:23 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 02:30 pm (UTC)I have both my stepdaughters as FB friends (and one as an LJ friend), and I hope by the time my kids are old enough, if FB is still around, they'll friend me. My teenage cousins have their mother friended. I don't know whether they filter her out of some of their more gratuitous goings-on or whether she has the sense not to comment, though...
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Date: 2010-12-10 02:31 pm (UTC)[TICK] I would not friend my parents, because that's not what Facebook is for
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Date: 2010-12-10 05:19 pm (UTC)But you've reminded me of a facebook related conversation I had last night - I'll post about it later.
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Date: 2010-12-10 06:30 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2010-12-10 10:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-10 11:00 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-11 05:12 am (UTC)I might get on FB, but it'll only be for keeping up with family.
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Date: 2010-12-11 11:20 am (UTC)