Gender Test

[andrewducker]

I'm curious:
Go here and spend 30 seconds choosing some photos. Then come back and fill in the poll...
[Poll #1471192]

Comments

[meihua.livejournal.com]

I would consider being 100% logical as not dealing well. :) Maybe I can afford to be 100% logical about something if it's happening 1,000 miles away and I'm only looking at it through a table of numbers, but hey, none of us are. 100% logic's not appropriate.

Anyway, this is a distraction. There are two things you haven't said yet in this conversation.

1. "Sorry for rubbing your face in the fact that I have cis privilege and you don't."

2. "Now I know how to avoid doing this in the future to other trans people and will take steps to avoid doing it."

If you don't hold those opinions, let's talk about that. What's the gap between the opinions you hold and those ones? I'd like to persuade you that the opinions above are the correct ones to hold.

[andrewducker]

I'll get back to you on that tomorrow. It's 11pm and I have builders turning up at 8am.

I'll re-read the whole conversation, make sure I understand it when I have a working brain, and then try to do the right thing :->

[meihua.livejournal.com]

Builders? Hee. Good luck with that!

[andrewducker]

Re-read the thread just now - and I think I see where the problem is. If I can back track and lay things out, because it's spread over oodles of comments at the moment:

I said (paraphrasing) - they don't need to take cis-gender into account in every internet quiz.
You said: that cisgender people are faced with this all the time and "Which times should they object, do you think, and which shouldn't they?"
I said you could object to anything you liked - and that I'd respond to whatever I liked as well.
And this upset you, because you felt I was rubbing my cis-privilege in your face.

And I can see why you'd feel that - because I was being somewhat snarky. I felt that, as you were implying that you needed permission to complain, or that I was asking you to stop, and I was clearly not doing so, that what you were actually objecting to me responding to you - which felt like you trying to silence me in my own journal. And thus I was snarkier than I should have been, which I apologise for. I wasn't actually trying to say that I'd abandon the conversation if I felt like it - I was saying that if you comment in my journal then I will engage with what you're saying rather than just letting you vent.

But I can see where the misunderstanding came from - and I can assure you that that was not my intent.

So, yes, I'm sorry that I came across that way, and I'll try to avoid this in future (although I'm sure it will happen again).

[meihua.livejournal.com]

Classification and discussion win! Thank you. :)