Trust.

[andrewducker]

[Poll #1363535]

Obviously, "in general".

Oh, and five cool points to the first person to identify the reference.

Comments

[laserboy.livejournal.com]

I'll generally trust anyone in life unless there's genuine cause not to.

[likeneontubing.livejournal.com]

I think there's majorly different levels of trust in life. I trust most of my friends, and the ones I don't, I am aware I cannot trust... but they are so much fun that I keep them anyway :) I just don't talk to them about anything important.

[davesangel.livejournal.com]

Agreed - I have a good group of friends who I'd trust completely, and that trust is absolute on both sides and we all know it always will be. But I'm also friends with people I absolutely know I can never trust (backstabbers, that sort of thing) but I'll socialise with them occasionally because it's good to have a laugh over a drink or two etc. But I always know where to draw the line. It's weird, though, when you realise that these types of friends think there's absolutely nothing wrong with breaking someone's trust just to be popular.

[likeneontubing.livejournal.com]

i think the first time you find it out, it can be very upsetting, but then as long as you know/have figured out their behaviour before trusting them, it's fine :)

i've sort of learned not to judge others by my standards though. for me, not having friends would be upsetting. for them it would possibly be devestating. so if a situation gets bad, they use the leverage they have. makes sense in a nasty kind of way.

[davesangel.livejournal.com]

i think the first time you find it out, it can be very upsetting, but then as long as you know/have figured out their behaviour before trusting them, it's fine :)

Yes, good point. Unfortunately they never quite see it like that (the ones who have proved themselves to be untrustworthy) but you can't change people and it's more stressful to try and then be disappointed, so at least you have learned something that you can then apply in the future.

i've sort of learned not to judge others by my standards though. for me, not having friends would be upsetting. for them it would possibly be devestating. so if a situation gets bad, they use the leverage they have. makes sense in a nasty kind of way.

I know exactly what you mean. I seem to have really high standards when it comes to judging other people...higher than the standards which I use to judge myself. That might sound egotistical, but what I mean is that I know that I would never betray any friend's trust, whatever the circumstances, but I know that the same cannot be said of them. So I'm likely to judge them more because I know that what I do couldn't be construed as hurtful (if that makes sense). And whilst I can take or leave friends like that, because in my eyes being untrustworthy isn't really friendship, I'll still hang out with them because some of them seem to need me in some way and I'm happy to help them even though I may not trust them. I hope that made sense, I'm up way earlier than I should be, but work needs done regardless of how much I'd prefer to be asleep :P

[likeneontubing.livejournal.com]

No it made perfect sense :) and at such an early time too hehe.

I think I judge them less than myself, but I'm very self-critical. I had 100% standards and other people have 80% or so, and I'm very able to make allowances for their own personal variations and motivations, and none whatsoever for my own haha.

at least you have learned something that you can then apply in the future. 100% agree with this :)

[http://users.livejournal.com/la_marquise_de_/]

I'm not the most trusting person on the planet, so for me friendship is quite an advanced stage.

[arkhamrefugee.livejournal.com]

Prince, "Trust" from the Batman soundtrack.

[andrewducker]

Five cool points for you!

[arkhamrefugee.livejournal.com]

Frikking sweet!

[broin.livejournal.com]

Trust is faith. I trust friends a little less than strangers, because I do actually know them. So it's not trust any more, it's understanding.

[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

I trust them to be exactly themselves. Which means I know which kinds of things they can and cannot be trusted to do/ trusted with....

trusting that a particular friend will always do what they think is right is not the quite same as 'trusting them'.

[broin.livejournal.com]

Yep. If such-and-such is never on time, it makes no sense to hold them to a timely standard. You learn who they are, and that replaces trust. Which has a 'hope' component that seems untenable for anything longer than, ooh, 5 minutes.

[zz]

define trust. in some ways i don't trust anyone, in other ways i'm with scott.

Re: Trust

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

But I trust everyone. I trust them to be themselves to a more or less degree.
I'm not trying to be snarky here.

For example, I trust that the links that you post will be at least be decent and usually very good and interesting/funny. But I have no idea how you would respond if I gave you £1000. I don't know you in that way. Does that make sense?

Re: Trust

[andrewducker]

I'd be confused, wonder what your motives were, and then be grateful (with certain provisos about that, depending on your motives).