In the mood

[andrewducker]

Several people have responded to the two sex posts saying "Well, it's not all the time, just when in the right mood, with the right people, under the right conditions."

Is there _anything_ this isn't true of? It's true of sex, of board games, of drugs, of movies - everything really. Human beings are not simple input/output systems - we have moods and feelings; of course our enjoyment of anything depends on dozens of different variables.

As Timothy Leary once said about drugs:

Of course, the drug does not produce the transcendent experience. It merely acts as a chemical key - it opens the mind, frees the nervous system of its ordinary patterns and structures. The nature of the experience depends almost entirely on set and setting. Set denotes the preparation of the individual, including his personality structure and his mood at the time. Setting is physical - the weather, the room's atmosphere; social - feelings of persons present towards one another; and cultural - prevailing views as to what is real.

Comments

[blackmanxy.livejournal.com]

"Is there _anything_ this isn't true of?"

Well, that depends.

[stillcarl.livejournal.com]

And as someone else once said about computers: "I gave up drugs for computers because unlike drugs, (and people?:), computers keep getting better and better."

Re: In the mood

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

What you say is true but I find it easier to find that transcendent moment with cuddling and intimacy than with other tasks.

You can race in any car but which is more likely to win: a new porsche or a new honda civic?

[theferrett.livejournal.com]

Ah, but the question is, all other things being equal, which is the best?

The top-of-the-line for sex and me is better than top-of-the-line anything else. It's slightly harder for me to reach top-of-the-line sex than it is, say, top-of-the-line writing, so it really is a tricky question.

[green-amber.livejournal.com]

That's pretty much what I said. Everything has a spectrum of experience but I am definitely more likely to achieve nirvana during sex than say, playing computer games. I think nothing matches (the right) sex for intensity; sunshine and water (together) sometimes gives me a greater feeling of bliss however. Cuddling can easily match sex for intimacy, be better for it sometimes. I suspect people who go for adrenalin sports have something they can match sex with for intensity but not intimacy or bliss. You really have to have a multi dimensional grid of attributes. "Better than" - in what sense?

[andrewducker]

Well, yes - what surprised me was that people felt it was necessary to specify that X was dependent on mood - of _course_ it was - everything is.