Lovely Quote from The Friday Thing

[andrewducker]

Funnily enough, another recent study into love, this one carried out at University College London, came up with equally dismal findings. They discovered that when we are in love, neural circuits in the brain which are normally associated with critical assessment of other people are naturally suppressed. In other words, love fucks with our critical faculty. This is why so many people find themselves, after the lie of love has been forgotten, trapped in horrible, utterly unsuitable relationships with people they actually can't stand, shacked up and shackled to someone with whom they have absolutely nothing in common, least of all
testosterone levels.

Comments

[pacotelic.livejournal.com]

welcome to hell. Love (or more properly infatuation) is definitely a trick we play on ourselves. The method is to keep plowing through until you're 55.

[green-amber.livejournal.com]

shacked up and shackled to someone with whom they have absolutely nothing in common, least of all
testosterone levels.

!!!!
very you comment that last sub clause. :_)

[andrewducker]

It followed on from a part of the article dealing with the fact that when men are in love their testosterone levels go down and when women are in love their testosterone levels go up.

[nickys.livejournal.com]

The first chapter of John Cleese's book "Families and how to survive them" (entitled 'Why did I have to marry you?') has some very interesting points about how subconscious attraction works.

[andrewducker]

I'll have to track that down. I didn't read the book before because I assumed it was fairly light and fluffy. I'll add it to my buy list.

[nickys.livejournal.com]

You're welcome to borrow my copy, if you like.

It's written in a light-ish style, but the actual content is quite in depth and sensibly argued.

[andrewducker]

Thanks muchly.

[imaget.livejournal.com]

It's no surprise to me that nature has installed it's own version of beer goggles in our brains.

[birdofparadox.livejournal.com]

You know, maybe I'm a bit early in the game, but not only do I find Matthew a trying bastard sometimes (and I'm sure he finds me an overly emotional nutter at times), I think that not having him around would be an enormous detriment to my well-being. If that's the lie of love, for the first time in my life, I'm happy to live one.

[andrewducker]

Actually, I think the lie of love is where you think the person is more perfect than they are.

Putting up with imperfections for the sake of the comfort they bring is something different.