Date: 2024-07-05 11:18 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] gingicat
One thing I've realized over the years is that it's easy to think something is consensual at the time and then look back and go "actually, that was really fucked up." So I believe women in those situations.

Unfortunately those terrible experiences made it hard to trust certain good-faith requests which turned out to be pretty good experiences.

Date: 2024-07-05 01:10 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] ninetydegrees

One of the women said she said no and he still went with it anyway. That's more than being "careless" and "damaging". That's either not understanding what consent means, which I find hard to believe, or not really caring about your partner's consent. Let's not find him excuses, please. He's already doing it on his own according to what the article reported.

Edited Date: 2024-07-05 01:11 pm (UTC)

Date: 2024-07-05 01:24 pm (UTC)
gingicat: (Default)
From: [personal profile] gingicat
Exactly. A good apology is never a bad idea.

Date: 2024-07-05 01:45 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] bens_dad
1. He had digital penetration with the Nanny.
I need to know more about the state of his relationship with the child(ren)'s mother at the time, but that is cause for concern.

Date: 2024-07-05 03:55 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] adrian_turtle
The nanny was his employee. She was 20, and he was about 60. That means their relationship was covered with red flags from the beginning, just because there was so much risk of abuse and exploitation. If it was a furtive relationship, that would have made it even higher risk, but even if the whole thing was open and his partner was ok with it, it would still have been well into the Bad Idea Zone. But the relationship might have been a bad idea, yet not criminal.

The specific action appears to have been criminal. If she refused to have sex on one occasion and he forced her, it doesn't matter how many other times she might have had consensual sex with him. (Come to think of it, I don't know how NZ law regards this. I know almost nothing about NZ law.) I'll just say it would have been criminal if he'd done it here.

Date: 2024-07-05 04:13 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] gingicat
Agreed.

Date: 2024-07-05 02:04 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] bens_dad
4. Tumblr wont let me in*.
Is this about Newcastle disease ?

* OK, I wont create an ID, so it is my choice ...

Date: 2024-07-05 02:37 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] bens_dad
Thanks.

I wonder how much of the current poverty in Madagascar comes from "silly" things like that.

(There is of course the potential risk of chicken farming becoming so big that it causes significant habitat loss. I am sort of surprised that the poor *have* land to rear chickens; I'd assumed that most of the problem was that the people had been moved off of the land.)

Date: 2024-07-05 02:57 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] calimac
This reminds me of how the recent US court decision allowing the criminalization of homelessness is not going to solve homelessness, and various people pleading for an attack on the root causes of homelessness (mostly brutal economics) instead.

Date: 2024-07-05 05:34 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] magedragonfire
It is ridiculous, but the people making these laws aren't even thinking of that. They're just imagining the big ol' kickbacks they're going to get from the USian for-profit prison industry - because, of course, slavery there is legal if it's felons who're enslaved.

Date: 2024-07-05 06:25 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] calimac
Yep. It's actually engrossed in the Constitution, 13th Amendment:

"Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States ..."

Date: 2024-07-08 04:34 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] wenchpixie
I came to comment on the Gaiman thing, and had the tab open for a couple of days because I don't know what I think quite yet, so I'll hang fire on saying anything, but it means I got to read this, and it's brilliant. Solving the problem that's actually there, not just the assumed problem.

Date: 2024-07-05 05:34 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] vivdunstan
Re 1 I haven't mentioned it elsewhere myself. But as expected as a long term Gaiman fan I have very complicated views on this. And yup, I'm basically extremely disappointed. I also wonder what its implications - still to see how things fall out - will be for the TV series of Sandman and especially Good Omens 3. The latter would seem to be to be in particular peril.

Date: 2024-07-05 06:27 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] calimac
That last point makes me wonder: What would Pratchett say about all this?

Date: 2024-07-05 06:57 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] vivdunstan
Absolutely.

Date: 2024-07-05 07:47 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] greenwoodside
1 & 2. Oh dear. I've enjoyed some of Gaiman's work (The Graveyard Book, The Ocean at the End of the Lane), never managed to get into Sandman, and am very fond of Good Omens (book and TV) though I think particularly because in those works he's paired with a writer with a strong comic sensibility.

He has been setting off my 'too good to be true' instincts, largely given his cult on Tumblr.

At the same time, this makes me think back to the Chris Avellone accusations in 2020. In that case, I did believe it; I didn't want to because I've liked his writing for ages and he's been involved in games that are important to me, but I also knew that his profile was a near perfect match for someone who might get stuck on their own ego and hurt someone while drunk. (He was a big name games writer, had fallen out with colleagues and went on record saying some very unprofessional stuff about them, and very much seemed to enjoy his reputation and the attention that went with it.)

And actually I was wrong. The accusations were completely retracted. I assume not because they weren't provable, but because they weren't true. I admit I don't know enough about Californian libel law to be sure.

In Gaiman's case...I guess we'll never know exactly what happened. The circumstances are deeply skeevy though not in themselves criminal. Du lieber Gott, Neil, your child's 20-year old nanny? Seriously?

Date: 2024-07-05 08:01 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] greenwoodside
The above sounds a bit mean-spirited now I think about it in relation to his work. His Doctor Who scripts in the Moffat era were great, and American Gods had a lot of style. I also love his writing about the late Diana Wynne Jones -- it's always touched me to see a male writer discussing the work of a woman, especially a woman in working in a low-brow/unchic genre, with admiration and understanding.

Date: 2024-07-05 08:07 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] greenwoodside
Re: "I guess we'll never know..."

Though the text messages sound as if they could be indicative.

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