Interesting Links for 15-06-2020
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andrewducker- Defund the police? Here's what that really means.
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- Message to White Allies from A Black Anti-Racism Expert: You're Doing It Wrong
- (tags:racism behaviour viaMorag )
- Henry Dundas descendant defends ancestor's record
- I really would like to understand the right of this. Would it have passed without his amendment? Anyone know an expert?
(tags:slavery history Scotland ) - San Francisco police to stop responding to noncriminal calls
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- Tips on engaging with people about difficult subjects
- (tags:racism behaviour discussion communication ViaDrCross )
- Home DNA kits could shed light on different Covid-19 impacts
- (tags:genetics pandemic virus viaPatrickHadfield )
- Men: How to be friends with a woman in your fandom
- (tags:fandom friendship advice )
- Ben Whishaw cast as lead in BBC adaptation of This is Going to Hurt
- (tags:healthcare UK TV book )
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Date: 2020-06-15 10:56 pm (UTC)I like some of what said because I think it can work when you have a personal connection with someone who is willing to talk with you but this title is terrible.
Tips on engaging with people about difficult subjects
Date: 2020-06-17 05:44 am (UTC)In a personal interaction, if one is seriously engaging in a, shall we say, external perspective realignment exercise with a friend, associate or family member, the "what about" argument is better not framed to oneself as "guilt-tripping",or "de-railing". Instead it can usefully be treated as a reminder that (a) the person you are talking to right now is an individual, not a representative of whatever group identity you want to assign them, which may not be one that they agree with; (b) their context matters.
What is an unarguable fact to you may be a contested opinion/superstitious nonsense/completely new to them.
Find out what they actually think before arguing with it.
It's useful to start with some aspect of the situation upon which you can both agree, thus establishing oneself as reasonable and right-thinking at least in some ways.
Never cite an authority that they don't respect.
Sometimes it is just not worth it, and one should talk about something that is completely neutral for the two of you instead. If nothing is completely neutral to you, you might want to reconsider your approach to life a little. It is not in general a bad thing to have friends and acquaintances with opinions that are different from your own.
Re: Tips on engaging with people about difficult subjects
Date: 2020-06-17 12:38 pm (UTC)(Although I do think I'd struggle with having a friend who was actively racist.)