Date: 2019-11-11 01:13 pm (UTC)
cmcmck: (Default)
From: [personal profile] cmcmck
Indeed they are not- it's a Victorian things introduced by Prince Albert because it was a thing in his native Germany.

With my Romani ancestry, why am I not surprised? :o(

Date: 2019-11-11 06:50 pm (UTC)
naath: (Default)
From: [personal profile] naath
That says nothing about whee the German custom came from (I have no idea) though

Date: 2019-11-11 07:24 pm (UTC)
cmcmck: (Default)
From: [personal profile] cmcmck
It seems to be 18th century and Lutheran.

Date: 2019-11-11 07:09 pm (UTC)
naath: (Default)
From: [personal profile] naath
Oh names, why are you so hard.

You should ask for what you need "name we will address you by" "name on your credit card" "name to send post to" "user name that you log in with" etc. and stop assuming.

I have two middle names, UK banks can fuck this up in a variety of ways which nearly fucked up a mortgage offer and it isn't even that long (the bank and my solicitor had chosen different amounts of name); but I invariable want to be addressed as either 'FirstName' or 'NickName' but my mother prefers 'Mrs LastName' - you just can't guess even by 'cultural norm', not to mention that some people flip their name for some purposes and some don't. And titles - a total minefield, let people type them in, don't assume you can enumerate them.

Date: 2019-11-11 08:59 pm (UTC)
cmcmck: (Default)
From: [personal profile] cmcmck
I'm trans and therefore changed my name in my mid teens.

I also have a pen name under which I write and publish poetry.

And people's assumptions are a minefield. 'Previous names' turns up on so many forms and I have three- deadname, present name with maiden name and present name with married name............

These forms ask me to out myself every time!
jack: (Default)
From: [personal profile] jack
I'm still wondering how you SHOULD do this.

I mean, working out that you need a name for "Dear Jane," for "Dear Ms Johnson", for "Jane Johnson" etc, is a big step, as is "just accept it in unicode and don't try to force conformity on it"

But it sounds like you're always sometimes going to end up comparing names from different sources, like for ID checks. How do you do that? Do you rely on common sense that "Bill Bryson" and "William M Bryson" count as "the same"? Would you know that for a name from a different culture?

Does it help to be able to enter multiple names, e.g. variant spellings, or varying transliterations if you can't transcribe the original. Maybe. But do you have a procedure, for what you allow? You can't pre-emptively list every variation. Does that actually reduce ambiguity? Do you have a way of recording ex-names that you might want to compare against but never use (e.g. deadnames, maiden names, etc) and how do you keep them from leaking? Would listing "allowed variations" along with the name help? Probably not, but then what WOULD help?
naath: (Default)
From: [personal profile] naath
ASK for WHAT YOU NEED. "name on official ID" may be what you need; "name on credit card" may be what you need (mine are different, the passport office spells out the whole thing, my credit card uses initials). If I am paying you money I expect you need the CC vrsion.

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