Should we make marriage harder?

Date: 2018-03-10 12:10 pm (UTC)
jack: (Default)
From: [personal profile] jack
I don't know, most people I know usually really worked at theirs ;)

Date: 2018-03-10 12:18 pm (UTC)
cmcmck: chiara (chiara)
From: [personal profile] cmcmck
Julia is spot on as she usually is!

Date: 2018-03-10 02:25 pm (UTC)
ckd: A small blue foam shark sitting on a London Underground map (london)
From: [personal profile] ckd
AIUI, Ireland kept their Schengen opt-out only because they had to to stay in the CTA. If both the UK and Ireland were in Schengen (presumably the scenario the authors of that provision had in mind), that would make the CTA irrelevant; if (when) Brexit breaks the CTA, however....

Date: 2018-03-10 05:05 pm (UTC)
cmcmck: (Default)
From: [personal profile] cmcmck
Whoever said marriage was easy to begin with?

Thirteen years, but that's as part of a twenty five year relationship.

The difference between marriage and not marriage? Not all that much in truth.

Mawwwidge

Date: 2018-03-10 09:00 pm (UTC)
agoodwinsmith: (Default)
From: [personal profile] agoodwinsmith
I insisted on getting married after my aunt's experience. she had lived with someone for nearly 30 years; cared for him through his illness, paid for his living expenses and medications and medical care. And when he died, she had no rights. His daughter took the body and didn't even tell my aunt where the funeral was.

We had lived together five years by then, and CMCMCK is right about married not being much different from not-married, but I wasn't going to be in the position that, if I needed to go to the hospital for my SOGP, I would be treated as "the girlfriend" - oh no siree.

In Canada, Common-Law is treated pretty much the same as Marriage-With-A-Licence - especially for taxation purposes - but you know? The law can be changed any day by nearly anybody, but usually by dyspeptic old white men who hate being old and wrinkly and want to punish everyone who is not themselves.

Also - most people are young and too inexperienced in financial matters when they get married, and the best advice in the world isn't going to help them understand what a break-down in cordial relations might entail when they are double their current ages.

(edited for misplaced "too")
Edited Date: 2018-03-10 09:05 pm (UTC)

Re: Mawwwidge

Date: 2018-03-11 11:36 am (UTC)
cmcmck: (Default)
From: [personal profile] cmcmck
Agreed!

In the end it was the element of 'protection' that persuaded us to do the dirty deed especially as I have an extremely thorny, not to say non existent relationship with my creators.

Having been together before said dirty deed also meant we knew each other's foibles pretty well by that stage! :o)

Date: 2018-03-11 03:18 am (UTC)
marahmarie: (M In M Forever) (Default)
From: [personal profile] marahmarie
Re: Scottish AirBnB nightmare, is "living in a stair" equivalent to USians saying they're "living in an apartment building" (with "apartment", I hope, roughly translating to "flat")? I was trying to form a mental picture of the circumstances described but "living in a stair" over here would literally mean "living in a stairwell" because USians = too often literal.
Edited (clarity, auto-correct) Date: 2018-03-11 09:49 am (UTC)

Date: 2018-03-11 07:29 pm (UTC)
cmcmck: (Default)
From: [personal profile] cmcmck
'Entry' for the bottom of those stairs is another Scottish term with tenement blocks.

Date: 2018-03-12 05:48 am (UTC)
marahmarie: (M In M Forever) (Default)
From: [personal profile] marahmarie
That's helpful, thank you!

Date: 2018-03-12 05:47 am (UTC)
marahmarie: (M In M Forever) (Default)
From: [personal profile] marahmarie
"to bide in a stair" (from Entry 2) and "live in a stair" do seem pretty close, and I now I have learnt some Scottish. Thank you! :)

Date: 2018-03-11 05:07 am (UTC)
heron61: (Default)
From: [personal profile] heron61
This is why I object to people renting out flats on AirBnB

Between stories like this and AirBnB driving up rents (because landlords can, or at least think they can make more money using their apartments are AirBnB locations), I'm convinced that AirBnB either needs massive reform or to be made illegal - Uber and Lyft are in pretty much the same position, since they basically amount of people trading wear and tear on their car for money, with below US minimum wage (which is already a pittance) money in addition. In short, the "gig economy" is largely a massive scam. Yet another example of what libertarianism at work actually looks like.

Date: 2018-03-12 11:45 am (UTC)
danieldwilliam: (Default)
From: [personal profile] danieldwilliam
I think there is a balance to be struck, both in terms of the proportion of residential properties that are being used for short-term lets and the requirements for owner of the property to ensure the good behaviour of their tennants.

There are lots and lots of places that require "some" holiday letting properties in order for their tourist industry to work at all. (I don't think Edinburgh is one of these places - there are ample opportunities for hotels to provide short stay accomodation. We don't *need* holiday lets in order to have a tourist industry - but they might be useful.)

I think I'd like to see short-stay accomodation treated as a change of use for planning purposes and therefore requiring planning permission. I think this would allow Edinburgh to ration the number and manage the density of short-stay accomodation in a way that was useful for Edinburgh and also allow small seaside towns to do the same. I think some sort of additional licensing on top of this with a good behaviour condition attached would be useful along with some practical mechanisms for direct enforcement by neighbours.

Date: 2018-04-02 08:22 am (UTC)
danieldwilliam: (Default)
From: [personal profile] danieldwilliam
And it lets places like Edinburgh run a different policy from places like Aberdeen or the touristic areas of the borders which have different needs.

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