Interesting Links for 02-09-2016
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andrewducker- An interesting discussion of Citizen's Income (for once, read the comments)
- (tags: GuaranteedIncome libdem )
- BBC iPlayer: Viewers now need TV licence to watch catch-up
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- A Tax Expert Takes Tim Cook's EU Letter Apart Point By Point
- (tags: tax apple eu ireland )
- All Aboard the Most Ridiculous, Most Stupidly Huge Cruise Ship on Earth
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- Arcane culture rules were locking working-class candidates out of City jobs.
- You'd think that you could, say, train people in the right clothes after you hired them?
(tags: society finance jobs clothing ) - Can VR Really Make You More Empathetic?
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- Google, Uber, and the Evolution of Transportation-as-a-Service
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- Zoe Quinn's FMV Chuck Tingle Dating Sim
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- Apple could bring home billions in taxes - if US passes a tax holiday
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- Researchers cautiously optimistic about new brain-clearing Alzheimer’s drug
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- 63 Things That Mildly Annoy All Scots On A Daily Basis
- Oh God. I appear to have actually become Scottish.
(tags: scotland viaPatrickHadfield funny ) - Young children's antibiotic exposure associated with higher food allergy risk
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- Wounds from childhood bullying may persist into college years
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- A toddler solves The Trolley Problem
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- The most important management secret you'll ever need
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- The Berlin wall turned out great, Trump tells voters
- (tags: funny politics viaMyBrotherHugh )
- Arrival is science fiction at its most beautiful and provocative
- Based on the wonderful Ted Chiang short story
(tags: movies scifi review ) - 'I know you are struggling right now': Victoria Beckham pens heartfelt letter to her teenage self
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- Comparing different Git workflows
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Date: 2016-09-02 12:08 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-09-02 12:35 pm (UTC)I don't feel the difference between "You need to" and "I need you to" is about criticising essence vs criticising behaviour. To me, "You need to" is either a factual statement or an order, depending on context and tone. "I need you to" is much less direct or assertive. It is framing yourself as the person with the problem and asking for help to solve it, which is not actually the case when eg someone is being late or failing to do their job.
I am sure it works and I suspect it is probably the best method for a woman dealing with people would resent her for the sort of clarity and assertiveness that is standard for men.
no subject
Date: 2016-09-02 05:53 pm (UTC)In my experience, "I need you to" is heard as a nagging phrase. It is deferential language and it leaves room for the other party to be (continue being) dismissive of another's needs.
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Date: 2016-09-14 09:15 am (UTC)