You and me. We're in this together.

[andrewducker]

John Gilmore: I was ejected from a plane for wearing "Suspected Terrorist" button.

I'm glad that someone has the moral pigheadedness to stand up for themselves. Because I suspect that I wouldn't.

Comments

[allorin.livejournal.com]

Reasonable.

How about, "entitled to a genuine mistake"?

Or, better yet, "reserve the right to be mistaken about something, sometime, somewhere, and given the freedom to have that mistake corrected, and go on living life quite happily without it being blown out of proportion, or being unfairly labelled".

Either way, I am sorry - obviously. And that's sorry I made the mistake, especially if it caused the offense, not sorry about it just because it's now caused me to be annoyed/upset. Yay - you're female. Now I know that, I look at your argument in a whole different light. ;+)

*sigh*

That was a joke. Just in case.

I'm a bloke. I think like a bloke. I occasionally make mistakes, which is definitely like a bloke. I am, however, not sexist. Dumb, occasionally, maybe. But not sexist.

I really am running out of the will to participate in LJ any more. Is there any reason why we ("we", being people in general) can't just discuss a topic without jumping down each other's throats?

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

How about, "entitled to a genuine mistake"?

No. No one's entitled to make mistakes. As Andrew says above, people are entitled to forgiveness and understanding, not mistakes.

Admitting that you sometimes make sexist mistakes is not a big deal. You graciously apologised, and thank you. There is a distinction between admitting "I sometimes make sexist mistakes" and "I'm a sexist", and what makes me uncomfortable is your apparent insistence that you're bygod entitled to make sexist mistakes. Which may not be what you're saying.

"Everyone makes mistakes" (which is perfectly true) is not the same thing as "Everyone is entitled to make mistakes" (which isn't universally true). Entitlement is a function of privilege. When a man claims he's entitled to make mistakes, when the specific mistake he made was a sexist one, this to me doesn't look like an admission of responsibility/request for understanding/forgiveness (an appropriate reaction for someone who's made a mistake) but a declaration of male privilege. This may not be the impression you're trying to give, but it is the impression you are successfully giving me.

I really am running out of the will to participate in LJ any more. Is there any reason why we ("we", being people in general) can't just discuss a topic without jumping down each other's throats?

Actually, this is one of the things I like about an online environment: it's possible to explore every avenue of an argument at your own pace.

[allorin.livejournal.com]

mis·take ( P ) Pronunciation Key (m-stk) n.

An error or fault resulting from defective judgment, deficient knowledge, or carelessness.
A misconception or misunderstanding.

v. mis·took, mis·tak·en, mis·tak·ing, mis·takes
v. tr.
To understand wrongly; misinterpret: mistook my politeness for friendliness.
To recognize or identify incorrectly: He mistook her for her sister.

I was going to ignore this (God knows I should, it's making me ill), but no, I can't. People ARE entitled to mistakes. As much as your are entitled to anything else, you are entitled to be flawed. It's what makes us both unique, and human. People aren't entitled to misconceptions that aren't mistakes, perhaps - that's a different argument. As for being sorry, or contrite for a mistake, or learning from it, that's a moral obligation. However, inasmuch as I have never met a perfect human being (unless you plan on holding yourself up in that regard?), I think we are entitled to make mistakes. Our flaws, our imperfection, give us that right. I don't believe anyone is entitled not to expect me to make mistakes. I am not perfect, and have never claimed to be. I claim the right to make mistakes - it's part of my genetic imperfection. I claim the moral right to learn from my mistakes, and apologise for them. But no one, no where, is going to tell me I cannot make a mistake, that I don't have the right to be mistaken.

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry this is making you ill, and I think we're just plunging along completely misunderstanding each other.

I don't believe anyone is entitled not to expect me to make mistakes.

I agree. There is no entitlement involved in making mistakes or not making them. As you say, making mistakes is part of being imperfect. But arguing that no one is entitled to expect other people not to make mistakes is - in my view - a completely different thing from claiming that you are entitled to make mistakes. There is no "entitlement". There is only - or should be - understanding and forgiveness. I don't accept either that you're entitled to expect me not to make mistakes, or that I'm entitled to make mistakes, or the other way round - just that we should all accept that people do mistakes, everyone does, and this is why we all need to understand and forgive other people's mistakes as well as our own.

[kpollock.livejournal.com]

Excuse my confusion, but I just cannot see the mistake as being 'sexist' in any way. The gender of the participants had no bearing whatsoever on the topic in discussion, and nobody was making any sexist assumptions as far as I could see.

Personally, I don't care if people think I'm a man, woman, flying fish or an alien, unless we are in some context in which it could possibly have any bearing. I don't usually stand for/approve of any stereotyping (whilst admitting that certain parts of certain stereotypes may indeed be true for certain individuals, that doesn't make the whole package valid) [but I do hate those folsk who take any opportunity to go on about gender/sexism/prejudice 'issues' at the drop of a hat when it's not really relevant :-) ]

Personlly, I kind of though yonmei's icon looked like Harry Potter and so didn't pay it much heed (it seems tobe a popular theme in many places, and so says no more to me about theposter than the fact tnat mine looks like a Southpark character [for the record, I;m not the world's greatest SP fan, the image just ticked me)

[allorin.livejournal.com]

magent sometimes uses a hilarious SP icon, which you should look out for. It's especially fitting, as she actually has a chainsaw.

And while I know you're not specifically supporting anyone here, I appreciate the viewpoint. You said what I would like to have said far better than I could have.

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

Personally, I don't care if people think I'm a man, woman, flying fish or an alien

Well, you would think that, you're a guy. :->

Sarcasm intended.

[kpollock.livejournal.com]

Damn, I thought I had you all convinced on the flying fish front....