Interesting Links for 19-7-2011

[andrewducker]

• Want to know which newspapers have been trading unlawfully in stolen personal data? See page 11 of this...
  (tags: privacy hacking surveillance notw information_commission dailymail)
• Alan Rusbridger, the man who is bringing down the Murdoch empire
  (tags: RupertMurdoch guardian news reporting)
• How not to compliment a woman in public.
  (tags: women safety sexuality)
• Borders finally falls over and dies.
  (tags: books business borders)
• The Dr Who Tube Map. This is so cool! I am having a nerdgasm _right now_.
  (tags: doctorwho tube maps visualization)
• Statistical distribution plushies
  (tags: stats cute)
• The looks of political candidates are key factor influencing low-information voters
  (tags: beauty politics)
• 'Smart' sunglasses put a LCD square between you and the sun.
  (tags: lcd technology glasses sun)
• Time-lapse video reveals never-before-seen bioelectric pattern that helps emryonic tadpoles form. Very cool!
  (tags: video frogs biology)
• News of the World phone-hacking whistleblower found dead. IT IS NOT SUSPICIOUS. AT ALL. NO.
  (tags: hacking corruption)
• 30 Reasons Not To Leave Your Husband
  (tags: relationships women)
• 6 Famous Comics/Cartoon Characters You Didn't Know Were Rip-Offs. Well, I knew one. You may know more. Showoff.
  (tags: comics history)
• Reasons why people stay in relationships when they really, really shouldn't.
  (tags: abuse relationships)
• Amazon starts renting textbooks. Second-hand market? What second-hand market?
  (tags: amazon books academia)
• Non-Africans are part Neanderthal
  (tags: science genetics neanderthal evolution africa)
• I'm not sexist but... (a collection of clearly contradictory statements)
  (tags: sexism funny)

Comments

[kerrypolka.livejournal.com]

Yeah, all of which is cool, but presented as a contextless "interesting link" I don't think it gives that impression at all!

[bart-calendar.livejournal.com]

My general feeling is that a woman who is visiting an adultery fetish site is probably going to have an affair at some point, but that there is the risk of getting so caught up in the affair that leaving her husband might temporarily seem like a good idea at the time but be a disaster long term (in the same way that a 40 year old dude might in the heat of the moment think about leaving his wife for his 22 year old mistress only to seriously regret it later.)

I'll agree that rereading it some of the reasons are socially based, but that doesn't make them any less real. A 40 year old woman leaving her husband for her 20 year old personal trainer is going to be socially judged, just as a guy leaving his wife for his 20 year old personal assistant is going to be judged socially.

And if we are going to say "hey, if you can get away with a discreet fling with a hot you dude go for it" - we also sort of have a responsibility to point out what can happen if it's taken beyond the level of fling into something more.

[kerrypolka.livejournal.com]

I didn't know I was visiting an adultery fetish site until I clicked on the link andrewducker gave with no other information than the title "30 Reasons Not To Leave Your Husband" and the tags "relationships, women". It wasn't tagged "kink" or "fetish", it was tagged "relationships", and I read it as such. I don't know whether Andrew thinks most of the people reading him have an adultery fetish, or whether it's supposed to be taken as broader advice.

Especially coming two links above "Why do people stay in abusive relationships?", which (I maintain) is a question it answers very well! Social shaming is effective at keeping people in relationships they are thinking twice about; that cuts both ways.

[bart-calendar.livejournal.com]

Very true and very interesting. I honestly hadn't considered the social shaming part of it until you mentioned it.

I think he put it up as a contrast to the other story, which is about why female victims stay with abusive partners. My piece is reasons women who are not victims might stay with partners they are not 100 percent satisfied by.

It's an interesting contrast.

[andrewducker]

I thought the subject line was a bit of a giveaway. But I could have been clearer.

[holyoutlaw.livejournal.com]

I think the fact the site was called "Our Cheating Ways" and advertised AshleyMadison.com were clues.

[momentsmusicaux.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that link should maybe have been flagged up as having a slight bias of crack.

> You’ll end up cheating on your lover. Most women are not hard wired for monogamy.

Really? Citation needed.