Very cool, if true

it took me a very long time to grow the confidence to 'be myself'
the biggest change was for the woman who became my wife [now ex]. I absolutely hated it.

now I'm not capable of altering myself for others. That can cause problems, but I'm *vastly* more stable find everything works out much better that way - even if some people find I'm like having a conversation with a wall

[nb. if I _do_ feel like a wall, it's because you're saying something grossly inappropriate. I either switch off or become extremely unpleasant in your general direction, which you do not want]