andrewducker: (Academically speaking)
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Over here there's an article on self-control, and how hard it is.  It uses the idea of first and second-order preferences, where your have both preferences and preferences _about_ your preferences.

I have a first-order preference for cakes, sweets, and other miscellaneous sugary delights.  I have a second order preference for healthy eating, which is a preference _about_ that first-order preference.  I know, however, that second-order preferences are a hell of a lot weaker than first-order ones.  It takes a huge amount of effort to modify a first-order preference, sustained over a long period of time.  Unless the rewards are high and the pressure is sustained, it's incredibly likely that the first-order preference will be unchanged.

This is why diets don't work.  You want to be skinny, but this is merely wishing, whereas your body _craves_ food, in a much stronger way than you wish you were thin.

The article neatly ties into neatly into a discussion I was having along similar lines with [livejournal.com profile] is_not_well recently - about the way the unconscious is largely in charge of our decisions. The unconscious is what makes most of our decisions, it contains our cravings, our wants, our demands and our first-order preferences. Most people think of their conscious mind as being in control, but largely it sits there as a top level, observing what goes on. There are plenty of studies out there that show that the conscious mind actually finds out what we're going to do _after_ we've decided to do it.

This is a pain, especially as the conscious mind is the only bit that can actually apply logic to a situation. Not that logic is always the most useful way to approach something, but sometimes it is, and when we need to attack something deductively it actually takes up huge amounts of the brain's processing power, as the conscious mind wrests control of the decision-making power for a few moments. Only, frequently, to have it wrested straight back, as the subconscious decides that one more biscuit would be an _excellent_ idea.

The mistake most people make, especially control freaks, is in thinking that they can bludgeon their subconscious into submission, and force it to do what they want. This normally leads straight into all sorts of neurotic behaviour, as the unconscious mind uses all sorts of defence mechanisms to get its way.

The only way to get long term results is to train the subconscious. Think of it like a child, or an animal, or a neural network (whichever one seems like the better metaphor to you), and correct it slowly, giving it constant feedback of the correct kind to encourage it in the right direction. You can't retrain an animal quickly, and there are some things you can never train it to do, but given time, persistence, patience and from learning what methods work best with your particular pet, you can do a lot. And generally it works a lot better than shouting at it, and then sulking when it doesn't instantly learn what you want from it.
From: [identity profile] meaningrequired.livejournal.com
Its awfully psychodynamic ;)

The problem with a lot of this stuff is its theoretical, its non-falsifiable. Though I feel lots of things work for different people. Often I will shrug and say "whatever gets you through".

What you're describing sounds terribly like Ego, Id and Superego. It sounds like you're describing the Id which is like a child demanding that its wishes are fufilled, and the other two trying to facilitate with reason.

I think if you believe that your subconscious needs to be trained, then training it will probably work for you.

Also, what exactly is the subconscious? when I feel stressed I feel reckless, I want to overindulge in anything that brings me pleasure. why do I do this? because its a coping mechanism, it offers temporary relief and sometimes perspective on an issue. However often it comes with damage, that only causes more stress in needing to sort things out.

Example - I get stressed, I go out, get wasted, then spend the next few days recovering. If I was stressing about not having enough time for my PhD, then I've just caused even more stress for a short period of relaxation.

I don't like to put too much distance in between the conscious and subconscious. I feel the two are often offered as two "people" who interact, but I feel the link is understated.


I'm not too fussed on the first article. There is a lot more *psychological* literature out there on decision making, cognition, drives and motivation.


On a related note, I have vague memories of depression being explained in terms of the emotion that manifests when you cannot achieve your goals. the mind checks to see the progress, and becomes more depressed when the goal is still not achieved.
Edited Date: 2008-08-11 12:39 pm (UTC)

Date: 2008-08-11 12:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fjm.livejournal.com
But this is not true. If it were, no diabetics would control their insulin and I would be constantly sick with celiac. My body craves cheese but I'm not stupid enough to eat it in more than tiny slivers on rare occassions. I've been forced into denial diets several times in my life (migraine, arthritis and and now the celiac/lactose intolerance) and each time rationality was successfuly imposed on craving for years at a time.

As far as I can see the argument is a simple cop out .

(and that is while I do *not* subscribe to the "weakness" theory of obesity).

Date: 2008-08-11 01:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] a-pawson.livejournal.com
I don't know _anyone_ who has been able to go "I will stop X, which I like, right now, and never ever touch it again."

I do. I can introduce you to at least 2 people who took a conscious decision to give up drinking alcohol and have never touched it again. And yes, they get cravings to just have one drink, particularly in certain social environments, but repeatedly refuse to allow themselves to do so.

Date: 2008-08-11 01:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fjm.livejournal.com
You know loads of fans on controlled diets and very few of us feel in the kind of controlled stress you describe.

I only know one person who *does* behave that way and that's my mother who has many issues in which control and loss of control become part of a trajectory in which she finds pleasure.

Date: 2008-08-11 02:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] channelpenguin.livejournal.com
Some kinds of ill effects from food can take up to 2 days to appear - which is longer than our automatic aversion mechanisms seem to be able to detect (unfortunately).

Date: 2008-08-11 01:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fjm.livejournal.com
ps. Psychology's greatest research flaw has always been that it tries to extrapolate from those who come to it "in distress". It has not always been very good at distinguishing between the immediate locus of distress and whether that is "natural" or a result of society telling the person that they "should" be distressed.

The UK has been a food hating society for a long time now. God forbid that they should talk to people who throughly enjoy their food (or anything else) while accepting limits or restrictions.

Date: 2008-08-11 03:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] surliminal.livejournal.com
Because I know people who've stopped things - but usually because they stopped enjoying them, they just hadn't realised that they'd stopped enjoying them until a bit after they had :->

You're talking about habits, not addictions.

The whole point of an addiction is that you usually *don't* enjoy it any more - that's habituation. But you have to keep doing it because STOPPING feels so bad.

With habits, having observed this thing no longer pleasures you, you can make an educated decision to stop, and though you may have to make changes to break the habit eg not walk home past the fish and chip shop/pub every night, stopping will not actually pain you physically.

alcoholics

Date: 2008-08-11 03:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] surliminal.livejournal.com
Alcohol is well known as being an addiction where having "a little bit" usually means "all of it, back to square one". Hence alcohol support groups, GP propoganda, drying out centres, friends, all encourage you strongly to give up "one day at a time" with no option of "just a glass" but no thinking about "no alcohol for ever".

THis is imensely strong reinforcement and yet still often fails. But you do get support for it in the alcohol environment in a way you do almost nowhere else. no one says to a known acoholic, "go on have a treat, just have one", at least no one with any sense. This is not true eg of food or smoking. Also the downsides are so vast - almost no one gets to that place till they are as low as they can go ie either having or about to lose job, partner, kids etc.

Re: alcoholics

Date: 2008-08-11 08:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] channelpenguin.livejournal.com
"almost no-one gets to that place"

See, that's the type you hear about, people that go through the 'programs' - that's the usual story, the 'rock bottom' thing. IIRC, one of the base tenets of the whole AA movement. But there *are* folks whose lives are at a pretty normal place despite/except the heavy/habitual drinking, and who just quit cold, with no program, no support - and who just never touch another drop. You don't hear about them much. Maybe we should hear more...

sorry - I'll stop semi-hijacking the topic of this thread.

Date: 2008-08-11 01:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] meaningrequired.livejournal.com
Stages of change, inbuilt with a re-lapse function. Change is a difficult process, and not always governed by our desires. Habit also plays an important function, as does social support, mood, the media. Social cognition models try to explain exactly this.

Date: 2008-08-11 01:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fjm.livejournal.com
But that decision to have some cheese is a decision. I say to myself: "I haven't had cheese for a while, if I have x amount I will have y symptoms." Am I up for that?

Alcoholism is an addiction. Eating wheat is not.

Believe me, my diet is pretty effortless. If it weren't that sliver would lead to a chunk etc.

Date: 2008-08-11 02:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] channelpenguin.livejournal.com
I don't know _anyone_ who has been able to go "I will stop X, which I like, right now, and never ever touch it again."

I think you do. I did that with alchohol.

Date: 2008-08-11 02:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] channelpenguin.livejournal.com
and for the record, I do not entirely agree that drinking too much alcohol, even regularly, is necessarily an addiction.

Date: 2008-08-11 02:14 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] channelpenguin.livejournal.com
Interestingly, my dad did the same (and he was neither a big drinker nor a habitual one). Just gave up one day and hasn't touched it since.

Date: 2008-08-11 08:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] channelpenguin.livejournal.com
oh yeah. I enjoyed it. Still would probably. Still miss it at times.

It was easy with alcohol because you don't *have* to drink. You do have to eat.

Life overall is better without - but I didnt' know that til 6 months in.

Now caffeine - that's *evil* to try to quit. Think I have cracked it this time though...
ext_116401: (Invincible)
From: [identity profile] avatar.livejournal.com
I've done it.

The secret is to sort of go with it.

Date: 2008-08-11 12:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] likeneontubing.livejournal.com
The only way to get long term results is to train the subconscious.

hells yeah. i'm glad someone else realises this. people all too often think they have failed when they don't manage one of their goals. they don't see that they have probably made good progress in training their brain to think differently about that situation and to move along.

tis the madness.

Date: 2008-08-11 12:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] meaningrequired.livejournal.com
I love the concept of "emotional experience".

I still can't define this properly.

However I like to think about it in my terms. You learn from experience, and emotional experience. You maybe learn that arguing is a positive experience because it gets things aired, or maybe you learn its hurtful and pointless. This means in the future when you argue with say a work colleague, emotional experience will teach your emotions how to react, and how much to react.

Date: 2008-08-11 01:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] likeneontubing.livejournal.com
hmm, unfortunately i don't think emotional experience is a great way of learning things hehe.

Date: 2008-08-11 03:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] surliminal.livejournal.com
Isn't this tied in with schemas? Or is that old news?

Date: 2008-08-11 03:33 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] meaningrequired.livejournal.com
Schema theory is still about! Usually its tied to memory though as a method of integrating information. Also its tied into self-identity, I think its called something like "self-schema". The example given in textbooks about Schemas is what usually happens in restaurants. There's a clearly defined step by step process of what happens (you go in, you're seated, asked if you want a drink, you pcik off the menu, they bring the food, you eat, you pay etc), and once you've been a few times, this gets integrated into your memory.

I was meaning in a more "pop psychology" sense, but I suppose it does link into schema's. I was thinking personally along the lines of things that I would have been nervous about several years ago, but I'm no longer, because I've had years of "emotional experience", and what I meant was, this isnt a "sentance" or a cognition going through my head, its more of a learned "feeling". I tend to think of schemas being a little bit more cognitive or conscious though than in the unconscious.

I also have the opinion that as people get to the end of their 20's and into their 30s they're no longer affected by the crap that would normally drive them crazy from say age 18 onwards (having had the emotional experience). However, I'm yet to fully test this theory yet :)
Edited Date: 2008-08-11 03:33 pm (UTC)

Date: 2008-08-11 04:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] surliminal.livejournal.com
the understanding I have of it is that (possibly slighty out of date) CBT is indeed about consciously, cognitively, trying to change schemas - but the schemas *themselves* are very much about experiential, emotional and generally unconscious learning - like if you have a bullying negative father you're likely to recreate that relationship with other men - hence yr reaction to men will be very different than if you have a kind supportive one - but this is not reasoned , conscious - no one thinks "because my father was scarey all other men wil be too " because this is obvoously irrational- it feels "instinctive" even. I *think* one of the issues for CBT is indeed to train the unconscious as well as the conscious - which is why psychodynamic therapy still gets customers even tho it's hit rate's not as god as CBT overall? (I can tell myself all I like that men aren't scary but my subconscious just ain't buying it..)
From: [identity profile] meaningrequired.livejournal.com
I don't have a good *academic* grasp of CBT, however from my knowledge of it, however I would agree that that's one way to describe it. I know CBT using slightly different terms, focusing on emotions and cognitions rather than drawing in the conscious and unconscious, although it could be depending on how/when/the approach the therapist learned. I imagine the flavour of CBT is going to be different if a psychologist take a course as opposed to a social worker (thats an interesting topic!). I wonder if they tailor the explanation of it to each patient/client?

I know someone who went through psychoanalysis and found it much MUCH more useful than CBT because it started to pull out the real reasons for things. I find CBT to focus on the here and now "here is your problem, your automatic negative thought" you do some experiments and you create evidence to show that your "automatic negative thought" is wrong, and remind yourself of this every time the thought crops up. Which actually would support Andy's post.

Date: 2008-08-11 01:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] communicator.livejournal.com
These ideas are key to the work I do as a hypnotherapist

Date: 2008-08-11 03:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nancylebov.livejournal.com
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/habit-change-is-like-chess/

Interesting piece on doing sufficient preparation to make habit change easier.

Date: 2008-08-11 04:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] surliminal.livejournal.com
Steer had as great book on this - the one that posits it takes six weeks a to break a habit and six weeks to make a habit. he taught himself to like apples :)

Date: 2008-08-11 08:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] channelpenguin.livejournal.com
another Steve reader!!! :-)

Date: 2008-08-11 05:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] meaningrequired.livejournal.com
Defence mechanisms really interest me. I'm fascinated by how they develop, and fascinated that different people can develop similar coping strategies.

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