Interesting Links for 26-03-2022

[andrewducker]

1. Statement between the European Commission and the US on energy

(tags:gas electricity energy USA Europe Ukraine Russia )

2. How to change children's behaviour

(tags:behaviour children viaSwampers parenting )

3. Vladimir Putin stands with JK Rowling!

(tags:russia jkrowling bigotry )

4. North Korea's video of Kim Jong Un's missile launch was unintentionally hilarious (but still terrifying)

(tags:NorthKorea weaponry video funny terrifying )

5. Russian troops torture each other. it's not surprising that morale is low

(tags:torture military Russia )

Comments

[rhythmaning]

Kim and the Generals. Worst boy band ever.

[dewline]

3. Rowling had at least sense enough to refuse Putin's implied endorsement. I doubt that she's had a "come to (your deity/ideal of choice)" moment re: trans rights yet. If she does, I expect we'll find out and be skeptical at first.

5. Yeah, that's one more thing we need to take into account here. Helping as many as we can to escape the abuse cycle will further undermine Putin's War.

[calimac]

3. Yes, I'll give Rowling a point or two for a not-bad snappy reply to Putin.

[arrctic]

1. pretty words. LNG is not the clean energy we're looking for.

2. A trick is to keep 10 coins in your left pocket and every time you praise the child move a coin over to the other pocket. Ideally in the beginning try to move all 10 every hour. this is a good idea that I shall endeavor to implement.

[andrewducker]

LNG isn't clean, but building enough renewables to get off of gas entirely is going to require several years and a storage breakthrough.

[arrctic]

no doubt. and better to start somewhere I suppose than continue business as usual which is untenable at this point.

I'm also wondering how all this LNG will be transported from the US to Europe. And where it will be sourced from.

[anna_wing]

2. Yes, I was told by someone from a police canine unit that that was how their dogs are trained too. Only positive reinforcement, no punishment. Incorrect behaviour is just not rewarded. The dogs work it out fast, so I'm sure children would too.

[andrewducker]

I do still tell Sophia when she's done something I don't want her to. But I explain why, and the last punishment she had was when she was about a year old and (iirc) bit Jane, so she was put off the bed for about thirty seconds. She was bereft, cried the whole time, and it never happened again. But nowadays we can actually talk to her, so we don't need to do that kind of thing.

I'm intrigued to see how things go with Gideon when he can talk.

[calimac]

That didn't work for me as a child.

1) I'd ask questions to try to understand where the limits of good behavior were, and my parents didn't want to have long conversations about picayune issues (which were that way because I was fumbling in the dark as far as understanding went) so every time I opened my mouth they started saying "no talk back."

2) They'd often ignore behavior they disapproved of, leading me to think it was OK, until they got exasperated and burst out in anger, leaving me bewildered as to why what I thought was OK was now suddenly terrible.

[nancylebov]

Training parents who aren't comfortable with giving praise might be its own project.

[channelpenguin]

WHAT you praise for matters too. Praise for effort, learning and perseverance and it seems the child will be happier person once they are grown up. Praise instead for knowledge, "being clever" or "talented" and the child will struggle more when things don't come easy and find it harder to be happier with their efforts. In essence, praise for things a child DOES rather than IS. Subtle maybe, but an important difference. Lets them realise they can change themselves, learn, develop rather than that perhaps skills are just "built in" and faults can't be changed... or so I have read.

Simply put, praise for trying, not success. For process, not results.

(I will confirm that I, at least, praised for talent, results, knowledege, "being clever" have always much less content than I might be with myself, excessively goal-oriented, don't enjoy "the process", only results, and have often been too impatient and not persistent enough with learning when it's tough and struggly for a long time. I did learn to cope, but not until well past 30, I think!)

[adrian_turtle]

It seems like "good job" has largely replaced "good boy" and "good girl" in local preschools. Even when they are praising little bits of obedience like holding the rope on the way to the playground. (Some of them are church schools, so it's probably not that they're trying to undermine the gender binary.) They've just figured out it's more valuable to praise what the child DOES, because the child can do it again, or do something else. Praising what the child IS can't teach.