Interesting Links for 12-03-2019
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- Infants as young as five months can differentiate laughter between friends and that between strangers
- (tags:children laughter relationships friendship psychology )
- Tips to help autistic pupils - by an autistic teacher
- (tags:autism teaching )
- Leaked Chinese database of 1.8 million women includes a field indicating whether they are "Breed Ready"
- (tags:China wtf women OhForFucksSake )
- US 'Gets Its Ass Handed To It' In Wargames: Here's A $24 Billion Fix
- (tags:usa military fail china Russia )
- The recent book trashing Jeremy Corbyn is fraudulent nonsense
- (tags:labour fraud )
- Ambitious plans unveiled for 'tech city' at Edinburgh Airport
- (tags:Edinburgh airport )
- The privatisation of capitalism
- (tags:capitalism business shares ownership viaDanielDWilliam )
- Seven moral rules found all around the world
- (tags:morality viaDanielDWilliam anthropology )
- Some detail on what Theresa May achieved last night
- (tags:UK europe politics )
- This is the reason that Jane and I did a "First Aid For Babies and Children" course. (The Red Cross one was very good)
- (tags:babies children health emergency )
- "I met my girlfriend's parents - and realised I had once slept with her father" (I completely disagree with the advice)
- (tags:relationships headline )
- No fudge, no unicorns: May's new deal is total failure
- (tags:politics uk europe doom )
- Italy bans unvaccinated children from school
- (tags:vaccination italy school )
- The girl who executed Nazis after seducing them in bars dies aged 92
- (tags:history wwii death )
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Date: 2019-03-12 03:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-03-12 03:13 pm (UTC)But if they aren't comfortable with honesty then just keep quiet. The father is hardly going to blow the lid off the affair himself.
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Date: 2019-03-12 04:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-03-12 04:27 pm (UTC)If they were only outing them as unfaithful how world you feel about that?
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Date: 2019-03-12 04:34 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-03-12 04:36 pm (UTC)I wonder how much duty of care the guy has to the father in that situation.
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Date: 2019-03-12 04:41 pm (UTC)I don't entirely endorse this suggestion, but in that position I might be quite tempted to point out that if he wanted me to keep his secret he might not want to make my life with his daughter difficult.
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Date: 2019-03-12 04:51 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-03-12 04:20 pm (UTC)Hmm
Date: 2019-03-12 04:40 pm (UTC)Re: Hmm
Date: 2019-03-12 07:54 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-03-12 05:11 pm (UTC)Premptive honesty by the father is going to damage his relationships with his wife, probably daughter, and probably the relationship of the correspondent with members of the family.
Premeptive honesty by the correspondent damages the relationship between father and mother and, as the trigger of that, between correspondent and most other people.
The chances of honesty producing a family dynamic where the correspondent is welcomed as a member of the family by everyone in it seems slender.
Letting it lie is, I think, going to lead to a volatile and festering situation which is very, very likely to end badly. Either because the truth comes out or because the unspoken truth damages relationships.
So I think it's a fair bet that this is going to end badly at some point and the longer it goes on the more bad the ending is likely to be.
I mean, imagine six years in to the future when the family gather to celebrate Christmas with new grandchildren and the whole story comes out.
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Date: 2019-03-12 08:28 pm (UTC)https://andrewducker.livejournal.com/3772663.html?thread=38335991#t38335991
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Date: 2019-03-13 09:49 am (UTC)It strikes me that he could tell the girlfriend about the bi phase and that it's going to affect her family and then ask her whether she wants to know more before disclosing the full story. She deserves to understand as much as she wants to and for them to discuss whether they want to face the fall out together, rather than him deciding for both of them based on her father's wishes.