Julie and Andy are separating

[andrewducker]

They have incompatible needs and goals, and can't make both of them happy in the relationship.

They will cohabit until Julie finishes her PhD (June-ish). They're going to be friends, are both sad about this and both still care about the other. If living together becomes unbearable, then they'll sort
something out.

They need gentle support, although both might be trying to hide under duvets for the next little while.

Addendum - please don't feel you have to juggle us. Invite us both to stuff, and we'll sort things out between ourselves.

Comments

[cheekbones3]

Sorry to hear that, hope things turn out as well as can be hoped.

[andrewducker]

Thank you.

[splodgenoodles]

My condolences to you both. I hope things go well from here.

[andrewducker]

Thank you.

[liv]

Oh no, that's really bad news. I'm glad you're managing the separation as friends but it's still really really sad. I'm so sorry.

[andrewducker]

Thank you. We're gonna keep working on it, and hopefully we'll keep on being friends.

[newandrewhickey.livejournal.com]

I am very sad to hear this. Any help or support I can give, I will.

[andrewducker]

Thank you.

[cosmolinguist]

Love and good wishes to you both.

[andrewducker]

Appreciated :-)

[flick]

We're very sorry to hear this, but knowing what you're both like it won't be a decision you've taken lightly.

If either of you want to have a few days away, you're always welcome.

[andrewducker]

Thank you. And yes, we talked about this a _lot_.

[jjhunter]

Best wishes to you both. It is always hard to change living situations when change is needed, and doubly so when it also involves letting go of a degree of intimacy that may no longer have been serving you both to the degree it once did but is still obviously meaningful and painful to loosen. I salute you for your courage. It is okay for this to be really hard. It is okay to grieve. I hope you each find the best parts of what the two of you have previously been to each other stay with you to inform the seeds of new intimacies within yourself and with others.

Best,
J.J.

[andrewducker]

Thank you.

[cmcmck]

Hugs both.

Hope all turns out for the best.

[andrewducker]

Thanks.

[boxofdelights]

I am so sorry.

[andrewducker]

Thank you. Me too.

[gominokouhai]

That sucks, man. My sympathies. Strength to you both.

From personal experience: do not underestimate the curative power of duvets and Haribos.

[andrewducker]

Thank you. Will work on both.

[myka]

I'm so sorry to hear this.

[andrewducker]

You and me both! :-(

[darkoshi]

So sorry to hear that. But glad that you can still remain friends.

[j_v_lynch]

That sucks and you have my sympathies.

[andrewducker]

It does, and I appreciate them.