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Apologies - and what they're there for.

Interesting discussion over here. Cory Doctorow posted something. He doesn't believe it was a wrong action. He believes the law is likely to be on his side in the matter. However, doing it has turned out to be hurtful towards someone whose opinion he cares about. So he's removed the posting, and apologised. Or possibly "apologised". Insofar, as he's not saying he's done anything _wrong_ - just something that someone he likes didn't like.

I find myself in that situation occasionally - wanting to sort out a situation where I believe I was acting in a morally reasonable way, but have hurt the feelings of a friend. And "apology" indicates to me an agreement that an action was wrong, and so it feels like the wrong thing to say. In addition, some people feel that saying "I stand by my action in general, but apologise for the distress it caused." isn't really any use to anyone.

Part of me wants to say "Fuck it! I did the right thing, if other people feel that strongly about my behaviour they should find friends who all think the same as them!", but another part says "I don't actually want to alienate my friends, so I should moderate my behaviour around them." Clearly, the answer is somewhere between - and it's finding this middle ground and living within it that causes me the most stress when dealing with my friends.

Thoughts? Suggestions?