I've never read "bummer" in that context. How about "a bum deal"? I thought it was pretty much the same as shouting "arse" - sure the buttocks/anus are implicated but there's no sexual reference.
I'm not filling in the poll because I'm undecided on it all. I think all of them, even "that's so gay" have become such common parlance that the possibly homophobic intent is not in the minds of most people who use them, but I'm not sure that's a good excuse. I avoid "gay" in that way, just don't tend to say "bummer" at all, and have been known to say "bugger" when things go pear shaped.
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I'm not filling in the poll because I'm undecided on it all. I think all of them, even "that's so gay" have become such common parlance that the possibly homophobic intent is not in the minds of most people who use them, but I'm not sure that's a good excuse. I avoid "gay" in that way, just don't tend to say "bummer" at all, and have been known to say "bugger" when things go pear shaped.