Quote of the day

[andrewducker]

i read this and it reminded me of the terrible sadness i feel for everyone my age. i've tried to explain this to people before but no one seems to understand what i mean when i say we are a generation without secrets. anything anyone could do to us, anything we could do to ourselves has already been splayed out in all its bloody glory on some talk show, or lifetime special, or reality tv. nothing in us is sacred, nothing hides itself away for the sake of staying sacred. we've been horrifically exposed and so we know nothing other than how to expose ourselves in the most painful ways.

from here via warrenelliswire

Comments

[amberite.livejournal.com]

I have things I cannot expose because I cannot explain them to myself.

The things that nobody ever used to talk about are all talked about all the time, but what of the things that simply don't make sense?

I'll always pretty much have those. The angst strikes me as personal, not general.

[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

Think that it's way off the mark too. In the notion, but most especially in the conclusion. Secrets are alive and well.

As I used to say, "there's being open and then there's publically disembowelling yourself and throwing your guts around the room..." (with implict approval of the former and disapproval of the latter).

Some do the one, some do the other. Some do neither and tell no-one the truth, even themselves... Some things we just don't even know, even about ourselves.

Nah, doesn't work as a generalisation, not at all....

Maybe the real secret is that we'd all actualyl like to be more restrained and secretive - but feel pressured to follow the over-exposed exposers....

[marrog.livejournal.com]

I dunno, I'm kind of torn on this one. From a person perspective, I think that the mystery, secrecy and taboo surrounding sex (for example) goes a large way towards making homosexuals so dirty.

Bex commented recently that at a work do when she was wearing a corset, one of the other female members of her team kept looking at her breasts. Was she gay? Probably not. But it brought to mind a theory I've had for some time.

I think that - for my grandparents generation, at least - homosexuals aren't Wrong because they have sex with members of the same sex, not really: They're Wrong because they have defined, acknowledged sexual desire of any kind.

Suddenly you look someone and you know, you know that not only do they have sexual urges, but they've thought about it enough that they've figured out those urges are for the same sex. When there's a gay couple, they aren't just a run-of-the-mill het couple who you can pretend to yourself aren't sleeping together for fear of pregnancy and are waiting for marriage. This gay couple area never (not then anyway, and only just now) going to marry; they have nothing to wait for, no fear of retribution (other than God's, and more recently the more horrific brands of STDs), so they're probably shagging. They're probably heading off to do it right now. And they're going to enjoyit.

Because, of course, not only have they discovered which sex they prefer, but to do so they must be seeking to actively enjoy sex. And that's Wrong also.

I think that little has changed since then, not really. And I think that ultimately, our real secret is that we hide just as much as we ever did.

Sorry bits of this are off-topic. I may actually post my 'theory' on my journal, if you'd rather discuss it there.

[marrog.livejournal.com]

(And posted. Just in case you were waiting with baited breath)