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Radical Honesty

[personal profile] thejeopardymaze 2012-05-04 11:57 pm (UTC)(link)
I was just about to type something like "Great, because what we really need is a generation of exhibitionists", and then I thought, "Wait, isn't this what too many people using the internet for these days, so what am I complaining about?".

[identity profile] bart-calendar.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 11:15 am (UTC)(link)
What really sucks is that lots of rapists in the BDSM community have no idea at all that they are rapists. There isn't a lot of education out there about what is OK at a scene or a munch and some guys mistake being a dom and having a sub available means that they can do anything. Sometimes you meet newbies who have never even heard the term 'safe word."

If the people running scenes were more active in educating the people - particularly newbie dom men - who are invited it would probably cut down on a lot of sexual assault.

[identity profile] a-pawson.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 11:17 am (UTC)(link)
It's similar to that TV Episodes site, but I've been using MyEpisodes.com for the past few years and find it very useful.

[identity profile] naath.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 11:23 am (UTC)(link)
I'm not sure why a US-based TV-listings site is interesting... (lots of UK folks have linked it, US people linking it makes more sense).


I'm sick of supposedly serious journalists claiming that marriage is superior to non-married cohabiting. Really fucking sick. I think they have the correlation the wrong way around on the break-up stats; but I also really don't fucking care - if your relationship sucks you should end it, and doing so shouldn't be something that draws social ostracisation.

[identity profile] cartesiandaemon.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 11:25 am (UTC)(link)
"Unrealistic expectations of relationships are a scourge on society."

Yeah. I wonder what would happen if we had fewer stories about "our eyes met across a crowded room" and more about "and then we put in a lot of effort to understand what made each other happy, and as a reward, it worked really well"... :)

[identity profile] cartesiandaemon.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 11:32 am (UTC)(link)
"How Marvel took The Avengers from a throwaway reference in Iron Man to a record-breaking movie"

Oh, that's awesome, I hadn't realised it had been such an ad hoc opportunity, but I'm really impressed that they did manage to assemble a bunch of films that work individually, but aren't wasted if they don't manage to culminate in one super-film.

[identity profile] cartesiandaemon.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 11:36 am (UTC)(link)
"Sleep cancels out obesity gene"

Although I seemed to have missed it if the article reported any evidence of that from the study: it claimed there was correlation, but I only saw speculation about causation.

[identity profile] steer.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 12:07 pm (UTC)(link)
See which parties voted the way that you would want them to.

Oh dear... it seems my favoured political party would be a lunatic in a box making decisions at random by tossing a coin. This agreed with me more than the next nearest political party (Lib Dem at 44%). Conservatives agreed with me more than Labour which was a surprise.

Then again some of the issue summaries were kind of surprising and rather tangential to what the actual votes were: e.g. "All smoking should be banned" was a vote on advertising and smoking in public places. "Legal Abortion should be limited as far as possible" was in fact a vote to reduce the term from 24 weeks to 12. The one about the "right to strike" was a vote about prison officers (actually I think maybe they should but I do think some professions it's just too dangerous for them to strike, the precedents for a police strike are not good).

[identity profile] danieldwilliam.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 01:38 pm (UTC)(link)
I kinda think the arrests of people alleged to have named the victim in the Ched Evans case might do more to reduce rape culture than the actual prosecutions and conviction.

[identity profile] peadarog.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 02:03 pm (UTC)(link)
Would love to try C# on my android. I hope somebody on XDA-Developers figures it out!

[identity profile] cartesiandaemon.livejournal.com 2012-05-02 04:18 pm (UTC)(link)
"Radical Honesty - a step too far?"

That's really interesting. I think Jeff was exactly right when he said that radical honesty was too extremist to be a sensible lifestyle choice, but that it was seductive because it made us think about all the times we'd like to avoid lying but are afraid it will be impractical, when it can (often but not always) turn out to be useful.

However, I think there's a tendency to overcompensate. The first comment described someone who played the guitar, and everyone automatically told him he was great and he thought about becoming professional, and someone told him that he sucked.

Now, I think that person was sensible to give some accurate feedback. But I also think they were embarrassed to criticise against minor social norms, and hence in an almost self-parody exaggerated what they thought.

After all, they probably mean "suck" compared to a professional player, not compared to an average person (who probably can't play the guitar _at all_), so by suddenly shifting the basis of comparison, they're just making the guitar player defensive and less likely to listen.

It would presumably have been equally true but more accurate to say something like:

"You've picked up the basics but you're not of professional standard"

or "You've picked up the basics, but you would need to dedicatedly practice for several hours a day to approach professional standard."

or "You don't have the natural talent to ever be professional"

or "You're not outstanding in natural talent and don't have much dedication. You're not of professional standard, and I don't know whether or not you could be."

It's hard to combine tact and truth, and often impossible, but I don't think giving up is the correct long-term solution (even though it may be the only expedient option in the short term).
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