I have actually only 'met' my child's girlfriend on Facebook. My teenage/young adult kids are on there, and we have friended each other, but we interact there as friends, not as parent/child.
It can be very hard to ignore things when the parent radar is activated but the effort is well worth it in the end. I have no problem though griping (rather mildly) about them.
I would have friended my Dad, but not my Mom if they were alive and had Facebook. Whenever I start to react to something on of my children posts, I stop and ask myself if I am reacting like my parent who I loved and could talk to, or like my parent who I feared and kept things from.
One of my measures of my success is that my niece has accepted me as a friend, but not her parents - I take that to mean that I must be fairly successful at maintaining the balance.
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I would have friended my Dad, but not my Mom if they were alive and had Facebook. Whenever I start to react to something on of my children posts, I stop and ask myself if I am reacting like my parent who I loved and could talk to, or like my parent who I feared and kept things from.
One of my measures of my success is that my niece has accepted me as a friend, but not her parents - I take that to mean that I must be fairly successful at maintaining the balance.
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That is an excellent reaction. I'll be striving to do the same thing when I'm a parent. Hopefully my frustration won't bubble over too easily.