The female orgasm is apparently not a myth

[andrewducker]

Involved in a discussion over the weekend, where various women who had never discussed orgasms with each other were surprised by the difficulty that the other ones had. Some of them were shocked by how easy others found it, others by how hard the other ones did. Nobody was sure what it was like for the general population.

This poll isn't open to viewing, as I know that lots of people don't want this kind of thing to be public knowledge. I'm just interested in the stats. Oh, and women only, obviously.

[Poll #1067723]

Comments

[angelevie.livejournal.com]

Obviously you know which one I ticked but to add to that it depends on loads of things....

...how tired I am
...if I've been ..teased
...what time of the month it is - ie hormones
...if I am feeling good about myself
...if I have been looking at pictures of hot people
...if I have been talking to /flirting with hot people

[ratmist.livejournal.com]

Word. To all of that.

[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

success and speed are not affected by anything emotional nor what I am (or have been) thinking about. (i have been thinking about the damndest unrelated things). Quality can be.

[martling.livejournal.com]

Will you post the stats?

[pseudomonas.livejournal.com]

One can click submit without selecting any boxes. This does what I think you want.

[rosamicula.livejournal.com]

I think the key to my response is 'now'. Things were different in the past.

[poisonduk.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, that's the last time I get involved in a chat like this in front of you - I honestly thought you were joking about an LJ poll!!! You know what my answer is

[andrewducker]

And you wouldn't skew the stats much anyway :->

[andrewducker]

Oh - and I never joke about LJ polls :->

[avatar.livejournal.com]

Haha you got the last option in! I almost thought I'd lost you last time I suggested it! Props to you!

[fjm.livejournal.com]

You missed "possible with someone else, a lot easier on one's own".

[andrewducker]

I'm always wary of putting in so many options that you end up with a flat distribution that's even harder to analyse.

I suspect that to deal with your case I'd need two orthagonal questions:
1) How easy it is?
2) Is it easier by yourself or with someone else?

If I ever do one of these again (I'm fairly sure I did one a few years back) then I'll try to be slightly more rigorous :->

[tisme.livejournal.com]

Wow. I was convinced it was the other way around. Hmmm. Although I would have made the poll *strictly* about masturbation, rather than orgasm in general, as that was what Jackie and I were originally talking about. I mean, you still get the data, it's just a bit more open...

[meaningrequired.livejournal.com]

I feel the urge to express my opinion!

I think women often think that they're difficult, when theyre not, its just society/media/insecurity has got us believing that 15+ minutes takes forever... When it doesnt.

I'm also blaming our society (but its changing!) for the focus being on men (I'm thinking of the 50's lie back and think of england), women need to learn that its ok to say "I want you do this, like this" and not worry.

[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

I'm (generally) quicker than almost any bloke I've been with. but i don't mind :-)

do it right and time just vanishes - who could possibly care??? What better way to spend time...

[pickwick.livejournal.com]

I want to whine "but what KIND of orgasm??!?", but again, that would cause too many options...

[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

hmm, yeah, indeedly - a fine point.

[johanna-alice.livejournal.com]

Can I fill this in later? :)

[thorn11.livejournal.com]

you don't have a choice for:
no problem by myself or with technology by myself but nearly impossible with other people :)

do some women actually find it's easier with other people? hmm interesting
guess some women have a harder time communicating and other women have a harder time being comfortable with their own body?

[andrewducker]

Aha! Just tried to reply to your previous comment only to have it vanish!

Anyway - yeah, I guess you're right. I actually know of a couple of women who find it easier by themselves with others - but I geuss most of them also find it easier with technology, or they'd have left similar comments. (Or they're embarassed)

[darkoshi]

I agree with the other comment "but, what *kind* of orgasm??". The orgasms I get don't sound much like the kind other people often describe theirs as.

And by the way, I find it easier by myself and without technology... and although vibes can do it too, I find a vibe-induced orgasm somewhat unpleasant. Hard to say why, except for my mental state being different, and perhaps the vibe being too strong a stimulation. Oh, and maybe because by myself, it is me doing the moving, me controlling things, whereas with a vibe, it is a foreign object in control, and me being subject to it, as opposed to me in control. Strange, that coming from a rather sexually submissive mindset... but it would be different with a person doing something to me as opposed to a machine.

I found the title of your post amusing, as I just posted this on Sunday to my other journal:

You know what?
The way they describe orgasms is just a lie.
Like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny
and Heaven.

[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

I hate general vibrating things (phones, etc) so much that I don't *know* what you mean, but can imagine very well. Can't even touch them...