Emotional Upset

[andrewducker]

So, my Dad asked me last night to give him a call today to do a bit of research for him.

I called him about half an hour ago and he asked me to dig up some information on an LCD projector and find somewhere near him (in Devon) so he could talk to them about it.

I checked about and called him back 5 minutes ago.  Told him that there wasn't anyone terribly useful nearby.  He told me that he'd tried to get hold of a number I'd given him in the original phone call, but they weren't answering, probably because it's Sunday.

Then he told me that his mother had died, peacedfully in her sleep, 10 minutes ago.

She was 94, born in 1910.  Austrian Jewish, she'd been lucky enough to be a reporter in Paris when Hitler invaded.  She married a Czech airman who was heading to Britain to join the RAF, had two children by him (including my father), divorced him, married again, had another child, raised them, watched her grandchildren grow up and said every Christmas that this one would be her last and that she she felt like a drain on her family, to a chorus of disagreement from her loving children, grandchildren and assorted in-laws.

This Christmas will be the first one I won't see her at.

I don't really feel anything yet.  We were never terribly close, but she's been in my life for 32 years.

I'm glad she went peacefully.  I'm glad her eldest son was there.

I  can't think of anything else to say.

Comments

[tisme.livejournal.com]

Ah. She was an incredibly cool old lady. I shall remember my visit to her house for a long time. Much love, hon.

[trav28.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear about your loss...

[chipuni.livejournal.com]

You have my sympathies...

[original-aj.livejournal.com]

I lost my Granny just before Christmas '02 and my Nan in Spring '03. I can empathise with your "not feeling" 'cos it got me like that at first. It's hard to know how to react - someone's always been there. but not terribly prominent. I find that I'm doing my mourning in installments, as odd things remind me of them. Like your post for instance....

Sympathy and support.

[nickys.livejournal.com]

Hugs.

[derumi.livejournal.com]

My condolences.

[redshira.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear about that. It's good she went in her sleep, though.

[red-cloud.livejournal.com]

Commiserations to yourself. Hope your dad's OK.

[bibliofile.livejournal.com]

Cool grandmothers are a good thing. My condolences.

[laserboy.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear it, mate. Hope you're okay.

[rahaeli.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry about your loss, but I'm glad that your grandmother had a long, fulfilling life and that the last bits of it were peaceful and quiet. May she find peace, and may your family find healing.

[lproven.livejournal.com]

Condolences.

My last grandparent - maternal grandma - died in about 1990. Some 2-3y after her only child. That's not good. I am riddled with guilt still, for not giving her more time; she so richly deserved it.

[dragonscholar.livejournal.com]

You don't have to say anything. I just hope all works out the best it can.

[wordweaverlynn.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[cloverbee.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother.

~sending peaceful thoughts to you and your family~

[moniqueleigh]

My sympathies to you & yours. I get the not really feeling anything yet. As someone else mentioned, it'll probably sink in over time, in stages. That's how deaths of grandparents have hit me.

And that's the way I want to go: in my sleep, quietly, with my loved ones nearby.

[broin.livejournal.com]

Love to you and yours.