Ma Vie En Rose

[andrewducker]

One of the conundrums that eternally draws me back in is where people should draw the line between being themselves and being the person they need to be to get what they want.

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Comments

getting what I want

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

If I'm not me when trying to get what I want, then I get what this other person wants rather than what I want.

[gomichan.livejournal.com]

I need a frontrunner personality that can work the people. Where do you sign up to be a multiple? Don't tell me the team's full already?

[freemoore.livejournal.com]

there's no line. being yourself includes all the long and short term temporary subpersonalities, masks, faces and filters you employ from time to time as you see fit. isn't getting what you want versus being yourself an issue between different fragments or between one fragment and the whole?

[andrewducker]

Nope. Sometimes you want things that require you to act in ways that you'd never do if you didn't want that thing. At which point you have to decide if you're willing to act in that way to get what you want.

reckon i'll just get coffee instead

[freemoore.livejournal.com]

my spidey-sense detects a lengthy and intractable debate approaching, in which it will take a long time to become clear that not only are the participants using the same words to mean different things, but that there are some fundamental differences in underlying assumptions which turn out to go all the way down...

Re: reckon i'll just get coffee instead

[andrewducker]

Semantic disagreements are fairly dull, but if you think there are some underlying assumptions that are different I'd love to know what you think they are...

Re: reckon i'll just get coffee instead

[green-amber.livejournal.com]

I would have thought patience was one of the attributes you actually had already..

[greengolux.livejournal.com]

I know this comment is a bit late, but I was wondering what exactly about Ma Vie En Rose led you to think of these questions?

[andrewducker]

I was thinking of the trade-off between being purely yourself and being accepted. The kid in Ma Vie En Rose clearly went for "Be Yourself" full force, but most people aren't happy to make that extreme a decision.

[greengolux.livejournal.com]

Ah, yes. I see now. Thanks.