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andrewducker) wrote2003-10-21 08:22 am
andrewducker) wrote2003-10-21 08:22 am
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This theory is not true.
Well, mostly not true.
Well, partly not true.
Actually, it seems to be true an awful lot of the time.
Well, mostly not true.
Well, partly not true.
Actually, it seems to be true an awful lot of the time.
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Because the mindset he describes (if accurate, makes me grateful to be a lesbian and therefore out of it!) is the mindset of every straight man who appears to genuinely fear that every gay man he meets will want to have sex with him, and who therefore keeps all self-identified gay men as far away from him as possible. The presumption behind it is that gay men treat all men like straight men treat women, and that this is how all straight men treat women.
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But.. but.. he doesn't assume that at all. You have *no* evidence for that from what's written down. It's YOU who assume he will treat gay men as if they were straight men ie wanting to have sex with him all the time. (And that doesn't make sense anyway. Straight men don't want to have sex with gay men. Even if you assume he's incapable of understanding any mentality except that of a straight man, it doesn't make sense.)
If I was to call that anything I'm afarid it would be hetero-phobic. You're making assumptions about him simply because of his sexuality. Isn't that the kind of discrimination you're opposed to?
Just try thinking about that for a minute.
How would you feel if I wrote
"Yonmei writes like every gay woman I've ever known who only wants to have sex with other gay women and therefore has no interest in being friends with straight women or men. I bet she's the kind of gay woman who assumes when she goes to a mixed-sex party that every straight man there will try to fuck her."
Wouldn't you feel I was being prejudiced and making unreasonable & discriminatory assumptions?
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The last thing I want to do is to discuss gay politics in any shape, manner, or form, with you. Experience has shown that this is not a good topic for us two to talk about.
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Half the arguments I've seen against gays in the military have been solidly based on this assumption, though - and I've certainly encountered several straight men whose reaction to gay men was the presumption that gay men must want to have sex with them...