Ends and Means

[andrewducker]

I occasionally think about deceit and how worthwhile it is. It's one of those things I love in roleplaying games (hence my Scorpion Courtier in Legend of the 5 Rings), but avoid thoroughly in real life.

Experience has taught me that secrets cannot be kept by multiple people, the truth will come out and no matter how good your intentions were in lying to them, no matter how positive the outcome, people will hate you for not telling them the truth.

Can anyone think of situations where lies did, in fact work out for the best in the long run? (excepting things like counter-intelligence against enemy nations).

Comments

[cangetmad.livejournal.com]

Well, how about "do I look fat in this?" when the person is, in fact, fat, and looks fat in everything? In that case, perhaps it's better to answer the question "do I look as thin as I ever do, and actually rather good, in this?".

And, yes, in answer to the original question. When I was accused of stealing at school, I lied about it, and, there being no witnesses, was given the benefit of the doubt. I had, in fact, been stealing. If I'd been found out, I'd've been expelled, which I think would have been bad. The experience didn't encourage me to steal. I'm fairly scrupulously honest, now, in fact. Overall, I have my education, and I'm honest. If I'd told the truth and got expelled, I might now be honest, but I'd be without the same education (expulsion would have meant a switch to a school that couldn't support the number of GCSEs I was studying for). So there.

[neriedes.livejournal.com]

"do I look as thin as I ever do, and actually rather good, in this?". is more of an appropriate question for the person to ask if they seek the truth.

"Did you steal" the answer to that is not a white lie and that's what I'm talking about.

[moniqueleigh]

Most people know if they actually are fat & thus look fat in everything. When they ask "do I look fat in this?" it is usually intended as shorthand for "do I look fatter than I do normally in this?" At least, that's what I mean!

[neriedes.livejournal.com]

when i feel fat and begin to _think_ i am i ask people, " do i look fat in this" privately wanting them to say no for reassurance regardless of the truth.

I think people who are in fact fat know this and really want a confidence boost.

[moniqueleigh]

Yes, but the answer to "Do I look fatter than normal?" can be a confidence boost. Especially if one is simply feeling fat that day, but is a bit more confident most days.

If an outfit makes me larger than I am, I prefer that the hubby (or whomever) tell me the truth so I can avoid the outfit in the future. But, lucky me!, galoot knows how to say, "That outfit isn't the most flattering one you have." (Or something along those lines.)