Julie and Andy are separating

[andrewducker]

They have incompatible needs and goals, and can't make both of them happy in the relationship.

They will cohabit until Julie finishes her PhD (June-ish). They're going to be friends, are both sad about this and both still care about the other. If living together becomes unbearable, then they'll sort
something out.

They need gentle support, although both might be trying to hide under duvets for the next little while.

Addendum - please don't feel you have to juggle us. Invite us both to stuff, and we'll sort things out between ourselves.

Comments

[jjhunter]

Best wishes to you both. It is always hard to change living situations when change is needed, and doubly so when it also involves letting go of a degree of intimacy that may no longer have been serving you both to the degree it once did but is still obviously meaningful and painful to loosen. I salute you for your courage. It is okay for this to be really hard. It is okay to grieve. I hope you each find the best parts of what the two of you have previously been to each other stay with you to inform the seeds of new intimacies within yourself and with others.

Best,
J.J.

[andrewducker]

Thank you.