[identity profile] danieldwilliam.livejournal.com 2012-07-16 02:28 pm (UTC)(link)
There’s lots in that article about toddlers that I recognise.

I have a two year old son and a fourteen year old daughter. They day to day management of the teenager is much easier. She can understand instructions and can agree to carry out tasks she doesn’t want to in the common interest or for longer term gain. She doesn’t want to play in the traffic.

Granted, she is quite a reasonable teenager, appears to have a good handle on her own long term interests and her own view of her long term best interests is in the same grain as my view of her long term best interests and, I think, also reality (i.e. she is hoping to go to a good university and earn her living with a combination of knowledge thus acquired and intelligence rather than make her living becoming Cheryl Tweedy.)

The toddler, The Captain is full of enthusiasm for stuff, which is both beautiful and bizarre. He can and will spend a long time looking at a bee collecting pollen. A walk out can often turn into an expedition to count all of Edinburgh’s motor cycles. He asks Why? all the time. It’s really just a way of saying “Say More About That.”

He has no concept of danger or of time. Last week we took him to a children’s adventure playgroud in East Lothian and he climbed up a rope scramble net to a height of three stories. Yesterday, we took him out for a ride on his scooter and he ended up circumnavigating Marchmont and then was both baffled and dismayed to return home to discover that CBeebies had stopped transmitting and that it was bed time.

The thing I notice about toddlers that isn’t picked out in the article is how they play back at you what they observe in you. The Capt’s current catchphrases include “Hang on a minute.” And “Ummmm, No.” both things that MLW and I find ourselves saying all the time.

He’s started reading his stories to us which is revealling the connections he is making in his own head about how the world is and works.

I personally think we have to go with him. It takes longer but it’s more fun.

[identity profile] apostle-of-eris.livejournal.com 2012-07-20 05:19 pm (UTC)(link)
A terrifyingly honest way of seeing how a little kid is parented is watching the kid with a smaller kid.