Reasons why people stay in relationships when they really, really shouldn't.
Ooh! Ooh! I know this one! Because they've read gender essentialist social shaming shit like the above-linked 30 Reasons Not To Leave Your Husband and figure it's a problem with them that they have to fix alone, because after all, You’ll hurt your husband. You married him for love. It always hurts to hurt someone you love and Your family will judge you. They may not say it to your face, but you know they will and Other women will start talking about you behind your back – and you’ll lose friends and If you have children, they will suffer and Divorce is permanent. Your dissatisfaction with your marriage may be fleeting and Dealing with the logistics of a divorce will eat up a lot of your time and distract you from work, which can seriously harm your career.
It seems to be quite a common thing on the internet, where a women will talk about frequent harassment out and about, from men. Someone will say "oh, it must be an isolated incident, it couldn't happen several days a week, now?" And you will find a chorus of women asserting that it does happen, and it happens frequently.
I was thinking about how to increase awareness of the issue, and also why on earth some people think its okay to be flirtatious in public to people they don't know. Although I suppose it boils down to the idea that men don't realise that they can be seen as a threat, and that they can be seen as scary. I was thinking as well, its one of those things where if you ask 100 women out, one of them is bound to say yes, its the scattergun approach to initiating sexual contact, and I suppose it doesn't occur to them that their behaviour is threatening, because they were asking/checking if the other person was interested in them, and if sex is a possibility.
If more people were aware of this issue, would it reduce it?
Ian Morris in "Why the West Rules: For Now" says that about 4% of the chromosomes come from mixing with Neanderthals and that's uniform across populations EXCEPT Africans, apparently because the mixing came after populations moved out of Africa. He stays far far far away from any speculation regarding effects. As has everyone else for the past ten years. In fact, it's such a taboo subject that I've gotten curious about when it will be discussed/researched and how.
30 Reasons Not To Leave Your Husband While interesting there are a lot of sexist assumptions in the article. This article assumes all women are housewives who don't have their own money. Or sense of self-worth as why would you want to stay married to someone who is no longer your partner? As Virginia Woolf said women need economic independence and room of one's own. That would eliminate a lot of the sexist arguments in that list.
Except: Reasons why people stay in relationships when they really, really shouldn't.
Hmmm..... sounds like these two articles reflect one another rather well.
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Ooh! Ooh! I know this one! Because they've read gender essentialist social shaming shit like the above-linked 30 Reasons Not To Leave Your Husband and figure it's a problem with them that they have to fix alone, because after all, You’ll hurt your husband. You married him for love. It always hurts to hurt someone you love and Your family will judge you. They may not say it to your face, but you know they will and Other women will start talking about you behind your back – and you’ll lose friends and If you have children, they will suffer and Divorce is permanent. Your dissatisfaction with your marriage may be fleeting and Dealing with the logistics of a divorce will eat up a lot of your time and distract you from work, which can seriously harm your career.
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It seems to be quite a common thing on the internet, where a women will talk about frequent harassment out and about, from men. Someone will say "oh, it must be an isolated incident, it couldn't happen several days a week, now?" And you will find a chorus of women asserting that it does happen, and it happens frequently.
I was thinking about how to increase awareness of the issue, and also why on earth some people think its okay to be flirtatious in public to people they don't know. Although I suppose it boils down to the idea that men don't realise that they can be seen as a threat, and that they can be seen as scary. I was thinking as well, its one of those things where if you ask 100 women out, one of them is bound to say yes, its the scattergun approach to initiating sexual contact, and I suppose it doesn't occur to them that their behaviour is threatening, because they were asking/checking if the other person was interested in them, and if sex is a possibility.
If more people were aware of this issue, would it reduce it?
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While interesting there are a lot of sexist assumptions in the article. This article assumes all women are housewives who don't have their own money. Or sense of self-worth as why would you want to stay married to someone who is no longer your partner? As Virginia Woolf said women need economic independence and room of one's own. That would eliminate a lot of the sexist arguments in that list.
Except:
Hmmm..... sounds like these two articles reflect one another rather well.
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