I don't think I said it was the hypothetical man's fault. I did say in a later comment: No, I'm saying that he has to accept the even explicit consent does not mean she's okay with it, and that he should understand there are dozens of reasons why his actions might be considered intimidating and pressuring even if he doesn't intend them to.
Expecting understanding is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, and I will continue to do so. I'm not here trying to point out who's to blame, I'm trying to point out that until we realize there are many different meanings of assault for many different people, it's going to be nigh-on impossible to make it stop occurring at all.
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andrewducker) wrote2010-05-25 01:04 pm
Re: Flesh and Stone
Expecting understanding is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, and I will continue to do so. I'm not here trying to point out who's to blame, I'm trying to point out that until we realize there are many different meanings of assault for many different people, it's going to be nigh-on impossible to make it stop occurring at all.