Just awake

[andrewducker]

Haven't slept this late in years.

Checking FB, I notice that my friends largely agree with my self-analysis _except_ when it comes to my agreeableness, where it turns out I'm a complete bastard.


My first thought is to wonder what I'm doing wrong. Apparently I don't come across as interested in them, which is weird, as I _think_ I am. Maybe I'm just fooling myself.

Edit: What's even more interesting is that I then went to answer some more questions and found myself focussing on the times I _haven't_ been there for my friends, interested in their troubles, etc. and found that my agreeableness score plummeted. Which either means that self-assessment scores are notoriously vulnerable to situational variables or that I hadn't realised how callous I really am. Or, most likely, both.

Comments

[communicator.livejournal.com]

My guess is that as an ENTP like me you prioritise saying what you mean over saying what is agreeable. It's a trait I have tried with some success to modulate but to be honest after a certain point I find I can't do it. I try to use truthful but respectful comments like 'that's an interesting perspective', because of course a person's own thoughts and beliefs are as vivid to them as mine are to me, but when that isn't enough, I don't find I have anywhere else to go but into 'disagreeable'.

[andrewducker]

There's probably a certain amount of that. But I do try very hard to phrase it as disagreement rather than attacks.

Doesn't help with some people though.