Shocking, shocking news

[andrewducker]

Women choose wealthy partners, men choose sexy ones. - one wonders what the conflation between "wealthy" and "good at something" is in that study.
Also Kissing means more to women than men - apparently women use kissing to assess the person they're kissing. Which strikes me as a good reason why so many women end up with appalling partners.

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[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

"Which strikes me as a good reason why so many women end up with appalling partners"

For that to be true, the supply of appalling partners has to be pretty abundant, eh?

As to the kissing thing - I am honestly surprised that anyone doesn't consider being decent at it to be important. Anyone for the male POV here? Do guys *really* not care that much? Is it just that in a straight choice between good kiss and no sex and iffy kiss and sex that he latter scenario wins out? Cos that's a bit more understandable (though I must admit that I wouldn't be expecting the sex to be any better than iffy).

If affectionate or sexual contact with the person is not pleasant, I can't see why you'd do it - and therefore why you'd be be in a relationship with them - as opposed to being just friends. I know people do it - and intellectually, logically, the partner may have every other good quality going - but I can't see how that can be expected to work *as a relationship* if you dislike the way the smell/can't bear to touch/kiss them/be touched by them/kissed by them or if you don't enjoy the sex.

Unless, of course, neither of you is ever interested in that sort of thing with anyone, then I could maybe see it.

Otherwise the partner is going to sense that physical reluctance as emotional distance, if nothing else. Close physical contact is incredibly bonding - and that is something most people want/need at an emotional level, at least to some degree. If you don't get it from each other, then what happens?

[andrewducker]

I am honestly surprised that anyone doesn't consider being decent at it to be important.

Who doesn't? According to the article pretty much everyone does - just not for all the same reasons.

[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

not from what i picked up. seemed to say to me that men would generally would have sex with a crap kisser and women generally wouldn't.

[andrewducker]

Oooh - good point. Sorry, I was mis-remembering part of that.

Men do tend to be much more basic about this stuff. Provided there's some sort of friction being applied to their penis they don't give a damn about anything else (generalising wildly).

[channelpenguin.livejournal.com]

ROFL!!!!

i do hope to do rather better than that, generally (and it does seem appreciated).