Advice Please

[andrewducker]

A long time ago, I used to believe in things like 'objective morality', 'absolute rights' and 'objective aesthetics'.  Obviously, as I grew up and started paying attention, I realised that what these actually meant was 'The way I'd like people to behave', 'The way I'd like people to be treated' and 'The way I like things to look'.

Since realising this, I've become a lot more understanding of other people, realising that if they like people behaving differently, like people to behave differently and like things to look differently, then of course they have different morality, rights and aesthetics and that's just fine.  My opinions aren't privileged over theirs and while there's no objective reason why I shouldn't go around forcing my opinions on them it makes for a quieter life if I avoid doing so unless their opinions/actions make me feel grossly uncomfortable (i.e. engaging in torture or wearing a particularly vile hawiian shirt).

However, from time to time I have to deal with people that think that these things mean more than that (although none of them have ever been able to give any reason why they do).  I find it almost impossible to negotiate with them because while I'm phrasing things in terms of what I like/dislike, or what I'm comfortable with, they're telling me that I'm categoricall wrong.  As I don't view it as possible to be wrong about these things, I'm at a loss as to know what to do.

Any suggestions?

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Comments

[andrewducker]

I've got Boomeritis. His dissection of everything up to Green is great - all sensible, although the book is horribly patronising and transparent to almost scientology levels. But when he goes onto second/third tier he adopts the Green defence/attack method of simply stating things as Truth and stating that anyone who doesn't just agree with him without proof as "idiotic...dumb-down, ding-bat egos...nitwit...timid"

He uses the phrase "post-rational" to escape having to actually give explanations that mean anything - especially as there's no way given to differentiate between pre- and post-rational states. And especially as he says earlier that many people claim to be rebelling for Green reasons when actually they're experiencing a Red lashing-out, this is particularly unhelpful.

The book basically reads like recruitment literature for a cult, feeding you enough solid information on things that are obviously bad, a few insights into things that some people may not have realised are problems, some sex to keep you interested and a few likeable characters that berate the main character whenever it looks like he stops paying attention (and by proxy, the reader if they stop paying attention). It's got several good ideas (including the classification into the various colours), but doesn't really hold together. Shame, I was rather enjoying most of the earlier bits.

[freemoore.livejournal.com]

there's plenty in his non-fiction books to differentiate between pre- and post- rational and also attempts to give meaningful explanations. I'd reckon the green defence/attack method is employed because the book is aimed squarely at Green values, and it's supposed to be speaking that language. not sure about that though.

i don't think it's a cult. there's no secrecy, the theoretical books spend plenty of time discussing the theories and referring to evidence which supports them; the most in-depth treatment i believe is 'sex, ecology, spirituality' which is one of the earlier books and also (afaik) the longest. The main thing, though, is that he *doesn't* just tell you to accept the things he says as Truth. In every one of the nonfiction Wibler books you're encouraged to practise meditation, as in 'to start a meditative practice', on the grounds that if you continue such a practice for long enough, eventually you will understand those 'truths' for yourself and not because someone else told you to believe them.

so not 'accept that i'm right', but 'if you do x, you will perceive y'.

I suppose the key question is, what if it *is* true? what do you stand to lose by accepting the possibility that the second and third tier states are just as real as any of the rest? you don't have to give up your rational respectability; you just try an experiment with defined parameters, and see what the results are. you don't have to go in blind at any point, you're not asked to make a leap of faith; you're instead told that if you fancy taking a look at what's claimed to be at the other side of the leap, you can build your own bridge to get there. you don't have to give him, or anyone else, your money (the books are normal book-price and otherwise freely available); you don't have to swear yourself to secrecy or join any kind of cult; you just *do* meditation and eventually second and third tier awareness becomes available to you as a matter of choice, and as real as your awareness is now.

supposedly, it's a characteristic of being at any given level to believe that it's the best and only level to be at; to see the levels before as misguided (or 'evil' or 'childish') and the levels after as unreal, nonsense, or delusions held by those at lower levels. so again, what if he's right about that? say you're centred at green; the next level is yellow, the first of the second-tier, post- or trans- rational levels. that would make you prone to finding everything up until green all very reasonable, and everything after green total nonsense. and that's what you're saying, isn't it?

apart from all that, he's reasonably well respected as an academic, he's openly building on the work of many, many others (as is the academic way), the non-fiction writing is open, clear, and well-referenced. are you *sure* you're not letting your habitual assumptions hide a genuine, new idea from you?

[freemoore.livejournal.com]

(that would be 'Wilber', of course, not 'Wibler' :-)