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[personal profile] hairyears 2023-01-15 07:24 am (UTC)(link)
The word is 'Desertion', for men who walked out on their wives, and never came back.

My maternal grandmother was a deserted child sometime at the turn of the last century: her father and his two brothers walked the cattle to market, sold them and pocketed the money, boarded the train to Cork and bought passage to America...

After her death, we found letters from him, and learned that he returned twice to Ireland: she had destroyed all other evidence of his existence and ensured that no hint of relatives in America would tempt other members in the family to emigrate.

We're still in touch with the Kelly family nearby in Narraghmore and Naas, who 'took in' a deserted wife and her daughter: they would have faced incarceration by the Magdalenes, or worse, for Ireland has never been kind to single mothers.