Interesting Links for 01-10-2022

[andrewducker]

1. Anyone want to be our neighbours?

(tags:housing Edinburgh )

2. Many men are simply incapable of being around attractive women

I officially apologise to any woman I've made uncomfortable. And I'm absolutely sure I have.
(tags:men beauty OhForFucksSake jobs )

3. Porn on Tumblr is a complicated

(tags:porn tumblr business censorship Apple Android )

4. Goblin cats are the best cats

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5. Just how insidious is K-Pop?

(tags:music Korea )

6. Too... Many... Unusual... Laughs!

(tags:laughter funny video viaPatrickHadfield )

7. Some examples of languages younger than Scots

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8. This house definitely has "unorthodox" design choices

(tags:design housing EpicWTF )

9. Elon Musk's Texts Shatter the Myth of the Tech Genius

(tags:Twitter sms ElonMusk )

10. Dredging the river Tees has released contaminants that killed crabs for miles around

(tags:crabs death pollution )

11. The lack of Third Places is definitely one of the major issues in modern cities

(tags:community cities video )

Comments

[ninetydegrees]

"Many men are simply incapable of being around attractive women"

I had a friend in uni who was quite pretty. She couldn't walk 50 meters in Paris without one guy, generally (way) older, staring at her, asking for her number, making comments about her, etc. It was horrifying to witness. She tried to be nice (because you get insulted or worse when you're not nice) but it made her so uncomfortable and none of these men ever saw it or cared.

And I'd say many men are also simply incapable of being around women, period. Their misogynistic mindset is always there. It just manifests in different ways, some more obvious than others.

[anef]

Yes, when I was a student I spent two weeks in Paris staying with my French penfriend. She was retaking some exams so had to study during the day, so I wandered around by myself. I didn't get attention in the streets so much as in the public parks. I was in fact happy to chat to the guys who looked about my age, though I thought it best not to accept the invitations for a drink, but there were definitely some creepy older guys.

Thinking about it, though, my worst experiences have actually been in the UK, though as I spend nearly all of my time here that shouldn't be surprising.

It was so lovely when I reached middle age and became invisible.