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andrewducker ([personal profile] andrewducker) wrote2022-05-19 12:00 pm
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[personal profile] nameandnature 2022-05-21 10:17 am (UTC)(link)
I said "sex", not "gender", where I understand the distinction to be biological (sex) vs social (gender). In that sense, it was not a single sex group. Are you using "sex" differently?

I also notice that you didn't answer the question about how the centre itself could determine that the person was who they said there was, so that complainant could trust the centre's word on it. Is that actually a realistic thing for the centre to do?
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[personal profile] nameandnature 2022-05-21 12:08 pm (UTC)(link)
I agree that the centre ought to check the bona-fides of people joining the group (although not that it's reasonable to expect a trauma victim to then go along with it). Wouldn't the centre questioning people's self-identification itself lead to complaints about gate keeping and the like, though? Do we have any evidence the centre did question it in this case?

And excluding transgender women from support groups is horrific

I don't think the complainant wanted there to be no groups with transwomen in. She found the presence of male-presenting people triggering to her PTSD and wanted there to be a group without such people in it. So in that sense, I guess what would have helped her isn't a single sex group (since again, the worry of "how can the centre tell?" comes up) but a female-presenting group: if she hadn't been triggered, there'd have presumably been no problem. There could also be women's groups where the membership is based on self-identification rather than presentation, if all the members were happy with that. In fact, if the centre could manage the admin, I'd support people being allowed to move groups based on anything that was triggering about the group they were in, even if it was something that in other contexts might be seen as an -ism or a -phobia.

Instead the centre valued adherence to doctrine over not triggering the trauma sufferers they're supposed to be helping.
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[personal profile] nameandnature 2022-05-23 11:24 am (UTC)(link)
I'm using doctrine to mean "a belief or set of beliefs, especially political or religious ones, that are taught and accepted by a particular group". There's no implication that they give lip service to them, in fact, it's quite the reverse. It feels like the centre regards a belief like "someone who says they're a woman must be treated as one by us" as a sacred (in Haidt's sense) value. With sacred values, the suggestion that they might be weighed against other values evokes feelings of offense and disgust, like the suggestion that a Catholic church could sell blessed communion wafers and use the money to feed the poor (the wafers are sacred even though feeding the poor is a good thing, as is not triggering the PTSD sufferer).

Going back to the thread, I think Andrew H is right to say that there's a loose cluster of characteristics which cause us to assign a gender to someone we encounter, but don't agree that the most important is what they call themselves. We can't usually look at DNA and genitals, so we mostly look at visible (secondary) sexual characteristics, so I'd say that those were the most important, or at least, most common, way of determining gender. It is making up new definitions to say that's all about DNA and genitals, but it's also making up new definitions to say that self-identification is sufficient. There might be good reasons to accept the new definitions, but that doesn't mean they aren't new.
Edited 2022-05-23 11:25 (UTC)
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[personal profile] nameandnature 2022-05-26 10:47 pm (UTC)(link)
Reading back, my use o f "doctrine" probably came from the earlier use of "doctrinaire" i.e. inflexible and not pragmatic.

Assuming the number of people wanting a support group is high enough (which, unfortunately, it probably is), it seems possible to arrange multiple groups so that people who won't get on for whatever reason can be in different ones without anyone being excluded from being in a group. That'd be pragmatic.

Suppose the centre were in fact running multiple groups (I'm not sure whether anyone has said whether they were or weren't). The centre's view was that the complainant's reason for not getting along with someone in her group was a bad and wrong reason. Their refusal to put her in another group looks like they valued punishing her for that badness over just putting her in a group which didn't have male-presenting people in it.

The harder case would be when there was only one group (because of limited resources rather than limited demand, presumably). In that case the complainant's case would be a lot weaker, because she's got to argue that her rights should overrule other people's rights to get group support, and why should we think that?