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andrewducker ([personal profile] andrewducker) wrote2018-09-27 12:00 pm

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[personal profile] xenophanean 2018-09-27 12:08 pm (UTC)(link)
This is exactly what I thought. Putting someone where they're in a position where they have to make a social-value laden choice isn't normally a nice thing to do.

E.g.
2 people sitting in a restaurant:
Person A: "What a lovely meal, shall we split the bill"
Person B: "We could, or I could pay for it all, entirely up to you"

Unless it's couched very carefully, I think Person A would find any answer like this slightly hostile. It's Person B suggesting that they act in a manner which would lose face, an outcome which hadn't been on the table before. It can be mitigated if other meals had been paid for, or there were other social bonds, but for two strangers, this'd be very odd.
Edited 2018-09-27 12:13 (UTC)