& sometimes a man can be perfectly lovely and mostly supportive,
but STILL not realise what it's like.
I know a man who is very in favour of pro-choice, women's equality, writes great female characters, etc etc
who still told me it sounded as though I was overreacting by feeling threatened by a dodgy-seeming guy getting too close to me and acting dodgy on the street at night.
I'm a short, fat woman in a power wheelchair.
The guy who told me I was overreacting said I was overreacting because *he* wouldn't have felt threatened by dodgy-guy.
I said, "yeah, but you're a 176cm tall man who can walk very fast and doesn't have a wheelchair.
The risks you face, and the degree to which someone sees you as a target, are very different to the risks I face, and the degree to which someone sees me as a target."
In the end I had to give up, because I couldn't convince him - I think because he couldn't cope with the idea of me having been in danger, so he had to convince himself that there was no danger.
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but STILL not realise what it's like.
I know a man who is very in favour of pro-choice, women's equality, writes great female characters, etc etc
who still told me it sounded as though I was overreacting by feeling threatened by a dodgy-seeming guy getting too close to me and acting dodgy on the street at night.
I'm a short, fat woman in a power wheelchair.
The guy who told me I was overreacting said I was overreacting because *he* wouldn't have felt threatened by dodgy-guy.
I said, "yeah, but you're a 176cm tall man who can walk very fast and doesn't have a wheelchair.
The risks you face, and the degree to which someone sees you as a target, are very different to the risks I face, and the degree to which someone sees me as a target."
In the end I had to give up, because I couldn't convince him - I think because he couldn't cope with the idea of me having been in danger, so he had to convince himself that there was no danger.